Second marriage for both, 4 of the last 5 anniversaries she has been on her period which isn't a problem (she takes care of me before and after). Here's the story.
We left on vacation from Bakersfield CA to go to the North Coast of CA (cooler weather) with plans to stop on our way back at the Konocti Resort at Clearlake CA (we wanted to check it out because we planned to attend an outdoor concert there in a few months). I told her it would probably be hot there but that we would only stay one night.
After driving 3 1/2 hours we arrived at the parking lot of the resort. While we were still sitting in the car, she said, "I don't like it, it's too hot besides I don't have any warm weather clothes". I said, "Let's just look around" and she got out of the car with an attitude and walked into the resort's office.
We looked around inside for 2 minutes, my wife with her sunglasses on and I said with attitude, "I know it's bright in here" and she blew a cork.
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2007-07-30 11:47:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like she is very rude and ungrateful sad because most ladies would like their husbands to take them places and spend that time with them and they complain about there husbands not doing that but if you were to stop doing that she could be complaining about that too i would stop taking her places then when she complains you can tell her why. or you can just talk to her and tell her how you feel
2007-07-30 12:09:34 · answer #1 · answered by jessi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh, first paragraph? too much information. yuck.
as to the other part of your story, i think she did not want to be there. you could say to her, if you could go on your dream vacation with money no object, where and what would you want? and listen. does konocti resort come up? i have been there. i love it. but the other 9 of 10 vacations i take are in 4 and 5 star resorts. so, as others have said, maybe she feels like you two are always doing your thing, which may not be her thing and she is feeling neglected and a little resentful.
so if she says her dream is hawaii in an ocean front resort with maitais and warm sand, tell her, perhaps that you guys will do that next year. there isnt enuf detail to give a better answer than this, but i know that when i have gone too many times in a row to rowdy, rustic lake havasu and have not been pampered like i would like to be at a place like the venetian in vegas, i get pretty testy too.
2007-07-30 19:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by jaded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure this is the type of vacation she wants?
When I was married to a VERY outdoorsy man (who loved road trips) I spent many a vacation at locations with no running water, long hot car trips, and just LAME vacations.
The first vacation with my new man was in a hotel WITH room service!
I am just saying maybe she is not happy with the locations but too chicken to speak up and penalizes you once you get there. Talk to her about it, make her accountable, as it is your vacation too!
Good luck!
2007-07-30 18:52:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She may have let you lead in the vacation department but now is her time. If you really want to try to have a great time with her allow her to select where. If it doesn't work out any different than any of the others I guess she is just miserable...and cannot help it..then get her into counseling
2007-07-30 19:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me the two of you need to spend more time planning your time off together more in depth. If you really planned out this time, then her wardrobe wouldn't have been an issue. I don't think she's sabatoging your trips. I just think you aren't on the same page with your vacation plans. And who really cares if she's on her period when your anniversary rolls around!! That's not her fault!
2007-07-30 19:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you make smart comments like that often? She may have giggled at your jokes when you dated... but after 5 years she's probably just tired of it. Maybe you need to think before you speak. Or at the very least not joke around when she's already aggravated.
Let her make the anniversary plans for year six...
2007-07-30 19:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by THE QUEEN B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she only does things like this when you're out of town it's time to have a very honest talk.
She can't deny she does this.....and she has to come up with a logical explanation.
Maybe next year forget the vacation and see what happens.
2007-07-30 18:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she is depressed. She isn't happy with herself, so she expects everything to be bad and makes sure it is. By doing so, she just reinforces the negativity she is feeling. It is a vicious cycle really. Talk to her, see if she will agree to see someone for help. Good luck!!
2007-07-30 18:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋