Mom was on a trip, I did wrong stuf, bad friends made up my mind. When she came back I got punished but she wasn't harsh. I was grounded but she treated me w/ love and allowed some fun. Since during the time I messed up I didn't wear a bra, mom got me some bras made of thick material that covered a lot of my breasts, give much support and clip w/ 4 hooks,just to compensate for the time I was braless. I didn't like them but didn't complain. My punishment is over, no more restriction, I'm completely forgiven,my relationship w/ mom is great, But she decided to keep me wearing those bras. Now I complained a lot, but she said they are good for me and won't back off until I leave home. She was loving but firm and said This is not a punishment but for your own good. I really want bras w/ full coverage, much support , no see through andn 4 hooks, and dont want complaints, ok? Said they are good and decent, just what a good girl like me needs. What do I do? Just obey without complaining?
2007-07-30 11:01:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anabela 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
By the way, I'm 13
2007-07-30 11:02:04 · update #1
just obey
its just a bra right....
maybe u can show your mom other bras that are suitable
or ask to wear the kinda bra she wears
good luck
2007-07-30 11:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by lynette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you accepted your punishment and reconciled your relationship with your mom. That shows some good development towards maturity. So look for the mature solution here - compromise. Yes, supportive bras are healthy for you, and as you enter your teen years it's better to err on the side of modesty rather than dress/act/be slutty before you're ready for it. But there is a middle ground between nun-like modesty and bra-less sluttishness. Ask your mom if she's willing to accept a compromise, and help you find bras that are acceptable to both of you. Assure her that you will wear bras whenever you leave the house, provided she's willing to let you wear bras that you both approve of. Remind her that you can be a "good girl" no matter what you wear. Agree to let a third person referee your discussion, and have a saleslady at the department store suggest bras for you. There are plenty of bras that have two or three hooks; offer pretty colors/lace/design; conceal the nipples; and provide good support. You really don't need the old-fashioned four-hook full coverage bras unless you are very full-figured and have more than a D cup. I'm sure you can find plenty of bras to suit you both.
2016-05-18 00:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by karmen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you are going through this. Your mom needs to be more understanding b/c a bra is something you will wear all day and NEEDS to be comfy for you. If you have larger breast then you need bras that are comfy,have lots of support and fit well. If not then that can lead to medical issues later on. I took my daughter bra shopping and she picked out and tried on all of them and I had final say on what was okay of course but SHE picked them all out so in the end, she was NOT disappointed with my desicion. Maybe ask your mom if the 2 of you could go bra shopping together and see if there is some sort of compromise. Let her know that the ones she has selected are not comfy for you and that you are only 13,not 65 and would like it if she would help you in selecting more girlie ones to wear. Let her know that her opinion is very important to you and although you respect that...you would prefer to feel like a young girl and not an old lady.
2007-07-30 11:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by julibell_75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you go to the store browse through some bras and find some simple ones that you might like and ask your mom advice. Tell her you would like to try something more simple. If she still doesn't budge then don't press the issue too much for now. After all you are 13 and you will be getting some more bras in the very near future.
2007-07-30 11:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by al l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom punished you w/bras?
Sounds more like she really cares about your health and wants you to wear supportive ones. You have lots of time to wear the ones you want when you are older.
2007-07-30 11:11:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is disturbing to me. I would never force my children to wear certain clothes especially bras or anything worn under the clothes. Your situation in general is complicated and I don't really understand it but from what you say it doesnt seem like your mother will listen even if you try to talk to her about it and it looks like you will have to wear them until you move out or if your lucky she'll lighten up when you get older and another thing that is disturbing is that she checks to see what bras your wearing before you leave the house.
2007-07-30 11:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to go bra shopping with you. You already know what she prefers and what you like. Let her know that you will comply but if she takes you shopping she can ok the bras you buy and you two might be able to reach an agreement. Let her know you value her opinion and you are willing to do what she wants, you learned your lesson, but you would like some input. Don't fight with her over this or it will make it worse.
2007-07-30 11:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by SlvrLining 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the big deal? No one should be seeing your bra except you anyway (and your mom since she bought it). Just wear the darn thing. If your mom is pushing you to wear a bra, then that means she notices that you need one.
If your own mother noticed, then other people noticed, so just wear it.
2007-07-30 13:04:18 · answer #8 · answered by its_victoria08 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your only 13! do what your mom says... if you have large breasts it really is for your own good to wear something that is going to support you. Breast tissue has muscles in it, that will tear and sag, with any activity, even just walking. I was a young woman who had size d at age 11 so i know what im talking about... if they hurt you or something like that just sit and talk to your mom. She may just want you to be modest. Most mothers dont want their daughters to wear lace and satin, untill there grown up... hang in there!
2007-07-30 11:07:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well tell her they are really uncomfortable and you'd like to go shopping with her, just the two of you, have some mother daughter time, and you two can go bra shopping together. she'll feel really cool about it like you wanna spend time with her, and when you find a bra you like just say, oh its perfect mommy! and if she doesnt buy it for you then go right ahead and buy it yourself. she doesnt have to know, its not like you undress in front of her every day. :)
2007-07-30 11:13:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋