i've been disappointed when i hear all that divorce and bad marriage stories ,
2007-07-30 10:47:11 · 22 answers · asked by roro 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I't depends on the couple and how comitted they are to the marriage.
Most divorce couples only loved their ex's during the good times and they forgot the meaning of marriage.
Don't be disappointed with others lack of comittment to marriage. Most people define marriage on their own terms and thats why it works for them or it doesn't.
What you have to focus on, is the type of man that you marry and how he respects the vows that he makes.
2007-08-03 10:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. I have a good friend who is married 54+ and still going. My grandparents were married for 52 until my grandmother passed away. My parents are going on 32. I've been married for almost 6 years.
Solid marriages are out there... but people forget that you have WORK at a marriage. When you get married, it's the start of a new life, not time to stop working on the relationship.
2007-07-30 17:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by curious gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!! I am in one. It's not easy, it takes a lot of compromise but it also takes finding the right person to marry and not just settling for the first thing that comes along and thinking if it doesn't work out we can just get divorced. It takes commitment from two people that share the same goals. What are the rewards of a good marriage, having a best friend, having someone to love your children with. Having someone to hold when your parents pass away. Having someone to hold you when you hurt, having someone to hold when they hurt. Marriage can be wonderful.
2007-07-30 17:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by fire_side_2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandparents are coming up on their 60th wedding anniversary. My parents are looking at their 40th. I'm facing my 16th. I think there are still good marriages working out there. I just think some people jump into marriage way to fast and then don't want to do the work it takes to make things work.
Remember too, in a sound bite society like we have its a ton easier to vent about someone than it is to talk about the real work and compromises it takes to make it.
2007-07-30 18:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of good marriages out there, but it's always going to be the bad news that you near about. My husband's parents have been HAPPILY married for 60 years. My parents have been HAPPILY married for 58 years. I have been HAPPILY married for 34 years. We believe that they key is to focus on the spiritual quality of the relationship before marriage.True compatibility and love are absolute requirements. Physical love should be held off until marriage since it really confuses the mind and decision making processes. Before I met my husband, I couldn't even meet suitable guys. Now I know--Put yourself in the environment to meet the right kind of person for you, then proceed cautiously! Good luck and be happy!
2007-07-30 18:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents have been married 32 years.
Here's the truth about the 50% divorce rate - MOST of those divorces are from the same people who get married and divorced more than once. Once a person gets divorced, they're more likely to do it again, because it is seen as acceptable to them - a way to get out.
See what I'm saying? It's not that bad.
2007-07-30 17:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course there are happy, loveing marriages. Your just not hearing about them here on this sight!!!! These happy married folks don't spend their time online looking for trouble. Their not bored either. Their putting 110% into their marriages.
Don't be disappointed, just hope all the BS you see here makes you smarter in the marriage area of life
2007-07-30 17:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've been going strong for nearly 37 years!
50% of couples - the ones that get divorced - simply lack the emotional maturity and compromise necessary to make a relationship work. They're too self-centered and selfish.
2007-07-30 20:19:22 · answer #8 · answered by John Doe 1st 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello RORO
Let me tell you about a sucseful marage. And I'm in it. As of sept 7/07 i'll have been happly married for 15years and thats no lie. Do you want to know why? I married my best freind in the whole wide world. We don't fight we disagree, We don't argue we have a diferance in apinons.
Now I'm not saying my marrage is purfect but I will say I keep an open mind about everything we discuse everything we spend hours talking about nothing we are truly best of freinds and because of that we will always be best of freinds. I't don't mater how bad the fight or who was right it just maters that we got of our chests what we had to say shered our feelings and continued to be freinds.
2007-07-30 18:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by Steven G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married, divorced and remarried. My second marriage was for the right reasons to the right person. Together 7 years, married for 4 and still going strong.
We're very attached to each other and committed to making things work when it gets hard. I believe we'll make it til one of us dies.
2007-07-30 18:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋