Ok so If a friend invites me to do something I almost always end up having fun. Sometimes I dont, because I feel like I dont fit in. Im 16, is it because most of my fiends are like 18 or something? If I feel comfortable Im a very humorous fun outgoing person. But heres the thing. I dont like going anywhere with many of my friends unless I can leave whenever I want to. A life long friend of isnt always nice to me but she is fun and I love her as my friend.shes 19. I dont like to spend the night at my friends. Im uncomfortable spending the night at my 19 year olds house but not my 14 year olds house. Im extremly uncomfertable around boys and men and Ive been hit on, but never abused. I just cant be myself most of the time no matter how hard I try. But I dont talk alot sometimes and arrrrrrrrg.Either from experience or what you think any help would be aprecciated.
2007-07-30 10:43:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It is very normal that you would be uncomfortable putting yourself in a position to be hit on by older guys. You 19 year old girlfriend is probably slutty and wants to bring you down to her level. Just because she sleeps with guys doesn't mean you should.
Listen to your intuition. If it is telling you something is risky, then you should avoid it. If your 19 year old friend keeps trying to put you into more adult situations that you are not ready for her, avoid her. If you find yourself somewhere where you are not comfortable, like spending the night, ask her to take you home and if you puts up some argument to delay or not do it, then call your parents to come get you.
2007-07-30 11:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by John 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont' think ur extremly unsocial i mean u do alittle but i think we all are at one point and i do have that promblem everyonce in a while, like if some friends wanna sleep over or go to the movies i don't really wanna do it b/c i use to have a stage were all i wanted to do was hang out w/ my parents and grow up alittle and not be around so much drama then i got use to it and enjoyed haveing alone time and i don't like sleeping over at others unless its like once every 4 months its creepy but i like it so every one is different and thats what makes u soo different and i use to not like to talk to guys and other people but over the years i grew out of it and i do have best friends that r guys and talk to all sorts of people so i think u r just fine
2007-07-30 11:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by emeraldgreen_26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is, I am afraid, part of growing up. The simple pleasures of childhood are behind you and the complications of relationships is ahead of you. Do only what you feel comfortable doing for now until your feelings change. You probably just need a little more confidence in youself to handle normal situations.
2007-07-30 10:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kenneth H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you don't want to feel this way anymore then just stop thinking about it and when someone invites you somewhere go and have a great time don't think about how old they are because if they didn't want to hang out with someone younger than them then the wouldn't so stop thinking about the aspect that holds you back and just enjoy yourself.
2007-07-30 10:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by Random_Monster<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, its not uncommon to feel more comfortable around someone your own age. and also I don't think you should stay at a 19 yr olds house you being 16.. so that's a common feeling your having.. your not unsociable your on the right track and your conscience is leading you right!!
2007-07-30 10:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have social anxiety disorder. Google it, its treatable with therapy and or medication.
2007-07-30 10:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by Claws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very unsociable. But I learned to put yourself out there.
:D
Be yourself.
2007-07-30 10:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by Cathy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋