Well im in a religion that has arranged marriages and well the guy that im with his name is Frank and well theres just not that spark you feel when you kiss them you know so should i tell my parents about this or just marry him?
2007-07-30 10:29:21 · 15 answers · asked by Swedishgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to your family and if they have no concern for your welfare then talk to him maybe he feels the same way and together you can come to a plan that will enable you both to back out of the wedding. Let him know how you feel. Hopefully your family will understand and you can get out of this arranged marriage. You have to consider life after marriage too, how do you know this man is not abusive and if you have no spark now how are you expected to carry on with him and have a family. Is a loveless family what you want your children to grow up in. Also, if it is a horrible marriage does your religion allow divorce? Which is the greater sin getting out of a arranged marrages or divorcing? These are all valid points to bring up to your parents, there are no guarentees in any marriage but even more so in an arraiged marriage. Is there someone more suitable to you in your church that you could be married to? someone that you have more of a spark with?? I wish you the best of luck. btw what is the religion that you participate in?
2007-07-30 10:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by brookes_mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents about it, but don't flat out say, "I'm not marrying that guy!" Discuss it with them, and try to come to a real understanding about how everyone in the situation feels. Then make a decision from there. If you decide to marry him, don't feel like you're marrying into a spark-less marriage that's doomed to unhappiness. That spark can sometimes grow from what you thought was nothing at all. Whatever you do, whether you marry him or not, treat him with respect.
2007-07-30 10:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by HollywoodHousewife♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you do anything, consider, what country are you living in? What are the laws where you are? By all means bring it up to your parents, but if you are in a country where this could put you in danger please give it a lot of consideration before doing something that could be dangerous. It's easy for people living in the US to give advice such as don't do it, but in some countries there are serious consequences. If it's just a religious matter, decide what your churches reaction will be, and then make a decision you can live with.
2007-07-30 10:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by ophirhodji 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Arranged marriage allows you to comment,love marriage doesn't.
2016-04-01 00:37:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them! Why should you marry someone you don't want to? Arranged marriages are so crazy. No one but YOU knows who you want to truly be with. If you feel nothing when you kiss him, think how it will be when you try to have sex. Yikes!!!
2007-07-30 10:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its too personal yar perhaps u not geting urself to much involved while kissing or intercourse u take intrest and fell the diffrence try to sort ur problem by ur self why to tell parents not a big issue tc bye.
2007-07-30 20:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by anish t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, tell your folks. There's so much more to life than spending it lustless.
IF your parents don't change their minds, I'm sorry, but I'd pack and high tail it to another religion and area.
2007-07-30 10:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents, you're not happy. Did your parents hired a match maker? They can always match you up with some other guy.
2007-07-30 10:36:36 · answer #8 · answered by 結縁 Heemei 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your parent, cos remeber you have to live with him for the rest of your life. Secondly, chances he may fell the same but he is afraid to tell anyone, Just like yourself
2007-07-30 10:32:30 · answer #9 · answered by givemeahellya2001 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the land of the free no matter what is arrainged you don't have to marry frank.
2007-07-30 10:34:20 · answer #10 · answered by Chalie M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋