My friend has been married for almost 4 years , she and her husband have 2 children ages 1 and 3 1/2 . Their marriage was going good until about 8 months ago, she said he has become distant, he spends most of his time at work or with their children, she also says when they are alone their is very little communication. She also thinks he is cheating.
She doesn't know what to do. She wants to work it out. But she doesn't know what to say to get them talking.
What should I tell her?
2007-07-30 10:18:55 · 11 answers · asked by nbabmorefan 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They need to take a walk together w/o the kids...or she needs to arrange for a babysitter and wait till he gets home, eats and then confronts him in a civilized manner about how she is feeling. ..Maybe he wants help but doesn't know how to ask for it...and maybe he is, truly cheating.
IF she loves him, she owes him the truth of her feelings...to watch and see by his reaction and explanation. If he gets angry...she needs to turn to a counselor to help sort her feelings out and a better way of dealing with him - and even suggesting he go with her.
But one thing is for certain, she needs to TALK to him and COMMUNICATE how SHE feels...and maybe, he will TALK AND OPEN UP...She must give her relationship this opportunity.
We invest in another with our feelings and love, the minimum we owe that person is honesty. Isn't it better to know where this is going NOW? I think so...life is too short honey, way, way, too short to hold this pain and worry inside. Help her come to that realization...
Grace
2007-07-30 10:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to get to a counselor. Hopefully he will be willing to go with her. My husband has been known to be distant when stressed or if he feels like I've been rude to him. He is not necessarily cheating. I guess if I were her I would ask him if there is anything I can do to fix whatevers wrong. Maybe he doesn't like the way life has changed now that they have a family. Maybe she said or did something to hurt him that she doesn't even know about. If she thinks somethings wrong than it probably is and if nothing else works she should go to counseling for her own sanity
2007-07-30 17:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off when your friend has time she could sit him down and say "babe,i fill that we haven't had enough time for just us.you have been working and playing with our kids alot and in your scedule theres hardly no time for me.i don't wanna leave you but i want to work this out".and if hes continues to be like this let her leave him.theres other fish in the sea better then him.or you can tell her to go to marrige counceling if things don't get better.
2007-07-30 17:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by domenicathesims2player 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to tell her husband how she feels, that he's distant. After that the conversation will fall into place.
2007-07-30 17:24:27 · answer #4 · answered by Jocelyn A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to sit down with her husband for an honest talk and ASK him if he is cheating.
2007-07-30 18:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should tell her to go to marriage counseling on her own. It will help her to explore ways to talk to her husband.
2007-07-30 17:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her to leave him along for a while, if he keeps acting like this, tell her to go to couseling(spelling?) with him to help there relationship..hope everything works out
2007-07-30 17:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by Allisandra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to tell her husband how she feels and if he dosn't change he's most likely cheating
2007-07-30 17:28:36 · answer #8 · answered by A New World 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth.
2007-07-30 17:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by hello molly 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
to get a boyfriend.
2007-07-30 17:21:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋