i love him he is 41 so sweet and kind, he cares a lot about me but the problem is that he has got a family. i dont know why he cares a lot about me,
oh god
help me !!
2007-07-30 10:16:33 · 26 answers · asked by hanna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Run Away!
2007-07-30 10:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by SouthernGent 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is NO, NO, NO.
You are young and very malleable and he is old enough to know exactly how to pull your strings and get what he wants out of you. This is not an equal relationship.
This old goat is not sweet and kind. He has a family and you are the "side dish" that entertains him for the time being. He will never leave his wife to marry you... they never, ever do. Chances are, you are just the latest of a string of girls he has used over the years. This is a lot more common than you think.
If you have any doubts, talk to your parents about a "girl friend of yours that has gotten involved with a 41 year old married guy." You will hear an earfull!
2007-07-30 17:28:11 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away from this man. He has no right to take advantage of your age and innocence. While you are legally an adult, you are emotionally immature relative to him and vulnerable to his advances. Of course, he loves giving you attention and getting the same from you. How flattering to his ego that he has attracted the attention of a girl half his age; the fantasy of many men.
He wants to have sex with you; he will never leave his family. That is the bottom line truth. If by family, you mean he has a wife, tell him to go back to her, apologize for his disloyalty to her, and get down on his knees and beg for forgiveness. Tell him the next time his eyes and genitals long to stray, to grow up, divorce his wife, and move out first. Only when he is on his own does he have the right to pursue anyone else.
What you have going on now are two people, you and this man, indulging yourselves in your weakness for acceptance when you should be considering the other people involved. Both of you need to grow up and take on the responsibility of adults.
2007-07-30 17:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I feel you because I'm in love with an 34 year old man , but he don't got a family nor wife but if you love him and care about him be with him maybe he'll leave his wife , hell thats how my aun't got her husband at 18 and he was 37 and he left his wife for her and they are still together today hell they have been married for 32 years.
2007-07-30 17:24:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are 18. You are younger, firmer, and fresh meat. Get over it, you are not in love, maybe infatuated with all the attention he is paying you, but you are 18 and starting out life, have very little in common with a man that is old enough to be your father. Get him outta your hair and live your life.
2007-07-30 17:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by lorencehill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart! Believe me, when men (a lot of them) reach that age, they need to make sure that they are still desired. That's why a lot of them start to cheat on their wives. If he was single, he might never be with you. I'm sorry. You're so young, everything is in front of you. Find a single man, no matter how old he is, but single. Best of luck.
2007-07-30 17:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too much of an age difference, to be honest with you. Also, is he going to leave his family for you? Is it even on the table? Do not cheat yourself out of what every person at 18 needs to experience.
2007-07-30 17:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by cookiesheet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm i cant really agree with you dating a 41 year old. i am 27 and that kinda pushes it for me. if he has a family you need to walk away! you will get hurt in the end. you are a young woman, you will be fine. if you are having sex with him then that would answer why he has you around...plus he can control you. not a good situation..use your head.
2007-07-30 17:20:06 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda W 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
love doesnt know any bounds... but since he has a family, please please please respect that and try moving on... And anyways he's ur father's age... Its like...u must have just started discovering so many things n he has been there done that n doesnt find it as exciting as u do... N yeah, anyone can be sweet to u...doesnt mean he thinks that way... His feelings may be general..get over it... u kno what?? I had the same prob... but im over it... believe me u'll be out of it...may be one day u feel ur trapped for life n the next day ur out of it... that is just what happened to me!!! I feel unpleasant thinking of him now...all those butterflies from the stomach hav disappeared... Its jus the hormones makin ya crazy
2007-07-31 04:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do Not get involved with him, too many problems to list here.
He will break your heart and never leave his family, He is only interested in sex.
Find a guy your own age.
2007-07-30 17:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by alanpks4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly your age difference could be a big problem.
You should also examine your life and see if you are just seeking a father figure instead of a boyfriend.
2007-07-30 17:20:05 · answer #11 · answered by Summer 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋