Do you believe that when a good man is in charge of his wife, everyone is more happier?

Question

I know there seems to be a lot more people believing in equality between the sexes nowadays and to me that just isn't how it was meant to be. They usually use logical fallacies to prove that men and women should be equal, but the fact is that men were designed to be in charge and the woman was designed to be submissive to him. When a good man is in charge, he provides his woman with security, food, clothing, shelter, and many other needs she might have. Most women if they really let go of all the dogma, would love to feel like they are their man's possession, i.e. a special treasure. Human nature says that if a man takes control, he is standing up and taking charge and being a leader. However, when a woman takes charge, human nature tells us that she is being domineering, bossy, and arrogant. Most women do not like having a woman boss because of the way they act. Society should admire women who are submissive to their husband and take care of their children.

If a relationship is 50/50, its just boring, less functional, and missing out on a lot of good male dominance/female submission feelings.

Does this make sense?

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Answer 1

I believe when the woman is happy everybody in the house is happy. So...do whatever it takes to make the wife happy!

Answer 2

I've had enough of you. Your full of bullshit. There is nothing to say that there is or was a certain way thing were meant or suppose to be. You only assume that and with no reason behind it at all, other then that ridiculous bible of yours which was written by men.! Females have a lot of responsibilities just taking care of children and her stupid 'man' who can't get off his lazy *** to make a sandwich. But to give them to chance to live without males means they have to learn to do all the things a male does, and the fact that a lot of females are like that should tell you something. A female has to and does do anything and everything a male does, and females usually make the arrangements because they're better at then most males. Most males aren't very good socializes and so it's easier for the female to do it. I know a girl whos mother always makes the arrangements and plans for things, after both the husband/male/farther and the wife/female/mother agree on it. A relationship that's 50/50 is NOT boring. It's FAIR. The two people invalid in the relationship get to make plans together and to discuss things means it's not boring. It gives them something more to do. And if the female has say in what they do or where they go then the male gets to try new things. And experiencing new things is never a bad thing for a person. And I am part of society and I HAVE seen what your talking about and I did NOT like it. And I am human with human nature which tells me a male acting the way you describe is just bossy and domineering as any female out there. I have nothing against having a female as my boss. I would be a bit comfortable I think not worrying if she's going to sexually harass me. I am a special person and a special someone and a special treasure. I don't need to be controlled to be told or feel that way. I would actually think that more and feel that way at an all time high if I could get someone like you and someone like the people you describe to change their ways and treat as I DO deserve to be treated. And given all that I go through all that I have gone through and all that every female in HISTORY has gone through I feel I have earned that right. Where as males have always had it and you can't tell me that's fair.??? Males and you have no idea what females have gone through and still go through. You don't know what it's like at my end.

I have to ask you, what if this whole thing was reversed. Would you still feel this way??? What if you were a female and treated like your own beliefs now tell you, you should be treated? Then you would feel it's all alright and hunky-dory? Or would you fight for what you think, feel, and know is right? For yourself? For you life??? You understand this is why we have that one golden rule, do you not? So that we may know what's like at the other person's end. So that we know that since we would never want that to be done to us, we should NOT and NEVER do it to anyone else. So that we treat each other as equals........

Answer 3

I completely disagree with you on this one. I would say everyone is happier when both spouses are equal partners. If a couple works together to make the family run the best it can, if they are open and honest with each other at all times, if they share responsiblities, it makes for a better relationship. Keep in mind, a relationship can be equal while appearing to be like what you consider the ideal. If, for example, the couple chooses to have the wife stay home to keep house and take care of the children while the husband goes to work at an outside job and takes care of household maintenance, I see that as being different, because the couple has chosen that route. If it no longer works, they can discuss and change things. If the couple chooses to do the opposite, then that works too. The key is, they need to have open, honest communication at all times. One can't view the other as dominant/submissive or greater/lesser.

Answer 4

The thing here is, a male can protect a female, or anyone for that matter, and still treat them like equals. It's pretty obvious, especially this day 'n age with all the work females are doing, that a female really is capable of doing anything 'n everything a male is. Sometimes even better than the males did it and/or do it. A female can take a look 'n see something a male didn't. (In all reality that works both ways and for anyone...)

Females naturally have the talents 'n skill to take care of house holds, children and males. At least some of them, 'cause I know I'm not good with kids... So wouldn't that mean it'd be better if I just tried doing something else? Like start my own career or something? I know there are places that can teach how to be a, 'good housewife' and 'good little doggy'. But that life's just not for me... I'm not comfortable in it...

So wouldn't it be a good thing to give me more options? I mean with all that females have and still do go through, it seems only right for us to get a say in things 'n have the options the males always had. Just like beprpg said.

And I've been studying human behavior for a long time, now, and I can tell ya; this day 'n age with the fact that female have realized how wrong it was way-back-when, even a male taking charge 'n whatnot would seem bossy, wrong, controlling, abusive and mean... So for a male to do that, it wouldn't be any different than when or if a female did it. (That's how equal we are....)

I would love to feel loved, yeah. But if that means taking away my independence and personality, then no. I'd rather be a depressed, lone-some old lady, than have that...! I don't think males or the male body was really 'designed' to be in charge, either. I say they were 'designed' to protect and reproduce. Does that mean 'taking charge', no. That means helping lift things that are too heavy for others 'n opening jars for their wives. Not locking us up to do house work all day!

Females 'n the female body was also, not 'designed' for anything but nurturing and reproducing. Does that mean being talked down to 'n not seen as an equal, no. That means helping males, making them feel loved in anyway, such as listening to them, helping them with their problems, getting them back to goodness 'n away from the drugs or suicide.... Taking care of children 'n teaching them right from wrong 'n how to be good people 'n treat others as the children would like to be treated. (A.K.A., the 1 golden rule. Just like beprpg said as well, I noticed.)

So you see, for females to fight for options 'n what males had handed to them on a silver platter, really isn't that bad. It's actually quite good. Because ya see, if every family 'n relationship was like what you have in mind, then it would be very boring... I mean everyone would be the same...! There'd be no individual relationships or marriages. But if the relationship and/or marriage was 50/50, then there would be more options. More excitement. I mean think about it; if the female had equal say due to equal rights, then it wouldn't be 1-sided. Isn't that a good thing? Think about all that could happen in that relationship 'n then think about all the options in your 'ideal' relationship...? What do you see?

Society should admire a care taker, but not a submissive person with no backbone... I admire anyone who has gusts enough not to stand for that 'n not to take it! I mean think about history; wouldn't you admire someone who did 'n stood up for all that the females did in history?? I sure would! But not because they're females, but because they had courage enough to know what was right and do something about what was wrong! Wouldn't that count as being a good person to you...? The right kind of person...??

Luck to ya.

Answer 5

Men were "designed" to be in charge? Well, I guess a lot of us females are "defective" models because we can also provide security, food, clothing, shelter, and many other things. We are not possessions. It is not human nature that tells us that strong female leaders are bossy, arrogant, and domineering it is people like you that will not let go of this submissive female stereotype.

Answer 6

No!!!!!! Your 'logic' doesn't make any sense. A marriage works best when the partners are equal and work together. Men who act like that are controlling and are setting up their marriage for failure because they hurt the woman by acting superior when they're not.

Women are not meant to be weak and the effing men who think that are just jerks without souls. Women can fight just as well and most times better than men. We're more flexible.

I still can't believe you put this question on here!!

Answer 7

I think it really does depend on the woman's personality. For some women it works, but for others it doesn't...both way are alright to me, so long as they find partners who agree with them.

Personally, I don't mind my hubby being in charge a bit, so long as he takes my opinions and feeling into account and doesn't see me as inferior. We both make our contributions to the marriage...he works, and since I don't, I make sure he has a clean house and a hot meal to come home to. If I was working, that would probably be different, such as us rotating who makes dinner every other day. He doesn't usually deal with the financial stuff. I take care of that since he's horrible at keeping track of the checking account. I just let him know how much he can spend once the bills are all paid for.

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Answer 8

First off, are you serious? Or are you trying to be controversial? Assuming you're sincere I'll answer truthfully. Pretty brave of you to ask this. I can be rational and put the fact that I'm a woman aside for now.Maybe the man SHOULD be the leader. Who knows? But you are right about one thing 50/50 is not realistic. Not for a succesful marriage anyways. If it is going to be succesful, BOTH parties need to give 110%. I think people just approach relationships these days as, " What can I get out of it." But you should love and adore your spouse SOOO much that you care more for them and their happiness than you do for your own. I think men have been focusing more on trying to make women be submissive than to being someone she'll WANT to submit to. You can't make someone submit, you can't force someone to respect you. Maybe women don't submit because they think it's not worth it. They don't think he deserves it. They don't respect him enough. Try being someone worthy of being in charge and someone who deserves leadership, rather than trying to make someone submit to you. Women say, "the guys should be worthy of being in charge." and men say,"women should submit regardless of how the man acts." But maybe both should stop pointing fingers and just act on their own convictions. Keep in mind, a "good man" isn't focusing on being " in charge". He's focusing on the wife's happiness. They can live in harmony if it's not all about the man taking control, or vice versa. He thinks only of her happiness and out of love she thinks only of him and his happiness. Both are being unselfish and will live in harmony. The question shouldn't be , "who's in charge?" It should be, "what can I do to make our relationship better." The less they both focus on getting, the more of a sucess the marriage will be.So I guess I'm trying to say is that I understand what you are trying to say. Alright , dude. I'm outta here. Hope I could bring in a different viewpoint you haven't already heard.

Answer 9

The key word in that question is "Good". And sometimes there just doesn't seem to be enough 'good' guys out there, seeing that chivalry is dead and all. Maybe that's why there's so much "domineering, bossy, and arrogant" women, because there's not enough good guys... ever though of that?
And what's wrong with an independent woman?

Answer 10

honestly no that idea doesn't make sense to me and i am very happy with my 50/50 styled relationship. However some people like to be dominant or submissive and i'm sure they can match up with someone suitable if they choose to be open with them about their relationship ideals. This however does not insinuate women are suited to submission more so than men, many men find that role appealing aswell.

Answer 11

If this was reality, it would be going on all the time.

Problem is, it just doesn't work.

Sure, I would have loved to clean the house, cook and raise my kids. And cater to my man.

I don't mind dressing discreetly in public. And I know how to handle myself appropriately in a social situation.

HE couldn't do it. He couldn't make a responsible decison, handle the finances or the vehicles, and he dang sure stank at dealing with the kids. He had to dump it all on me.

Show me this man who holds up his end of the bargain, I'll show you a marriage where the wife has learned to be submissive. In every positive sense of the word.

So, show me....