I have a new boyfriend. I love him dearly but I have been single and happy for four years and raising my daughter alone. I have become very independent and private at home. I will not be in a living together situation for quite some time so how do I get him to stay home without hurting his feelings? He has been at my home almost everyday since I met him.
2007-07-30 09:30:54 · 8 answers · asked by hot_coffeebeans 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just thought I'd mention that my daughter has been gone all summer with her dad. Luckily I met the new BF during this time and its been a very good time to get to know someone but it can be very draining too.
2007-07-30 10:03:40 · update #1
Tell him it confuses your daughter, and you must set a good example for her.
Make sure you don't give him any keys to your place, and see him elsewhere as much as possible--without your daughter involved. Kids don't benefit much from new relationships.
2007-07-30 09:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know about the fact you do love him & appreciate him, but you've been on your own for awhile now & aren't quite use to someone being w/you on a 24/7 basis. You just don't feel 100% comfortable w/it, & assure him it has nothing to do w/him. Let him know at this time in your life, you feel you have to take it slowly & get use to the fact you have someone in your life now who really cares about you. This is something new to you & you just need space & time to get use to it. Tell him you have your whole future ahead of you & you don't want to do anything now to ruin it. Ask him to just be patient w/you & you're sure things are going to work out just fine. Also, that you need him to understand it doesn't mean you care any less for him, it's just something you've got to get adjusted to. He should understand where you're coming from as long as he's assured it has nothing to do w/him. Best of luck to you.
2007-07-30 09:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you ask your boyfriend to go home, nicely? Im male, but if you mean a friend, i would just tell him your tired and he or she has to leave......... words work
2007-07-30 09:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey gurl, thats a hard one. i kno where your coming from my boy wont get up and go home either. i don't kno how to help you just wanted to say your not alone and when you do find the way to tell him make sure that your sensitive to his feelings because, yes, men are sensitive creatures...so when you do get it out make sure to include your reasoning. its hard when you have been alone and are independant and you don't want him 2 think your not feeling him. so good luck with that one!
2007-07-30 09:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that while you appreciate his company, you had a life before you met him and you're not willing to give it all up for anyone - just as he shouldn't be giving up his previous life for you. Spin it so that you seem like you're trying to give him his freedom.
2007-07-30 09:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by burghgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just be honest with him. If he truly cares about you, trust me he'll understand. Tell him its gonna take time to completely let him into your space 100%. Explain why.
Honesty is the best policy!
2007-07-30 09:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by just wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him the truth,you have been living on your own for so many years,and during,this time,you have been healing,you and your daughter,tell him you love him,you want to be with him,but you need some breathing room,if he loves and respects you he won't have a problem with this
2007-08-03 03:16:13 · answer #7 · answered by tnsupermomwhit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is being a friend and being a friend who is used. Tell him a date he has to go. Because you are moving. Tell him you cannot be responsible for his equipment in the basement when you move.
2016-03-16 03:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋