I just found out that one of my good friends Justin Herring was killed and i havent cried yet is that normal?

Answer 1

ahhh wow man that sucks sorry to hear that, and yea its normal, you dont really think about your friends dying and then they do and your just like shocked at first then comes the tears as you remember thing that you done with them that you can never do again, like i did with my grandpa, i thought he was gonna get through the cancer, he was the strongest man i ever knew and the best, he was 82 years old and still worked every day then he found out he had cancer and acted fine and then it just like happened out of no where and before i knew it i was at the hospital in diss beleaf then it sunk in, and thats the first time i cried in 7 years, and it was crazy

Answer 2

It is not common, but not unusual either. When you live through a trauma like losing a close friend or family member, there are several stages of recovery.

Shock, denial, pain, grief, anger are just a few and they sometimes go in that order.

In my opinion, everybody handles things like this differently and there is no "normal". What may be right for someone else answering this question, may not be right for you.

Or you may still be in shock or denial and haven't reached the other stages like pain and grief yet.

Watch out, it may hit you like a freight train and seem overwhelming when it does. If so, find someone to share your feelings with. I know, when I lost my best friend in high school in a car crash - I was in denial for 2 days - then when I returned to school and her chair was empty in homeroom... it hit me like a Mack truck.

Answer 3

Definitely normal. A co-worker/friend of mine died shortly after being diagnosed with cancer and I didn't cry until one random night while laying in bed maybe 2 weeks later. Then it all came out. Delayed reactions are common and just b/c you haven't cried yet, it doesn't mean you don't care or that something is wrong with you. Grief can come in waves or all at once. Sorry to hear about your loss.

Answer 4

the answer before me is ridiculous. thats not true.

everyone has their own way of dealing with emotional pain. some people cry. others don't. some block it out and focus on something else because its easier than addressing the problem.

there isn't anything wrong with not having cried yet. maybe you havent come to terms with it. each person has their own individual way of coping with the loss of a friend or loved one. tears don't equal how much you care.

Answer 5

Everyone deals with loss in their own way, don't worry if your not crying. You know what your friend meant to you and you understand what his death means, whatever emotions you are feeling are exactly what you should be feeling. Some people cry, some people do other things, whatever your feeling / doing its all natural. Just because your not crying doesn't belittle the fact that one of your good friends has just passed and that your very upset about it.

Sorry for your loss

Answer 6

First off, I am so sorry to hear that you lost a good friend.

To answer your questions, I want you to see the Kubler-Ross Stages of Grief:

Denial (this isn't happening to me!)
Anger (why is this happening to me?)
Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if...)
Depression (I don't care anymore)
Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes)

These are the stages that most people go through when dealing with death. Most people go through these in this order.

Don't be worried about what is "normal." Just make sure that you are doing your best to recognize and deal with how you feel.

Again, my condolences. And please remember, your friend would want you to take care of yourself in this sad time.

Answer 7

Normal? Probably. Maybe Justin was not a good person when you knew him and dying was a matter of when and not "why ?????"
Other reasons-
1. He is not really as good a friend to you anymore. You had a secret grudge?
2. Your life is too busy right now, and you handle input of information in a "garbage in garbage out manner" . His death will just have to wait for its turn for attention in your busy life.
3. You did care !, Your emotions want you to cry a little bit . secretly, you did want to grieve. But you are stunned. and the reality hasnt sunk in. Yet.

Answer 8

Sometimes, during a grievous period the body shuts down and causes you to feel neither hapy nor sad. It's understandable to not yet have cried. That stage will probably come later. I'm sorry for your loss

Answer 9

Yes it's normal. When my sister passed away I didn't cry for a few days. It's your minds defense mechanism. If something happens that is too emotionally traumatizing your mind will protect you from it until it feels you are ready to deal with it. Your mind and body are in shock right now. Just give it time....

Answer 10

its totally normal I didn't cry about my friend Zach Boschert's death until I was at his funeral and I saw them roll his cascet into the church. Your not weird, it's normal. Don't worry the tears will come. And the weird thing was he wasn't even a close friend. Well if it makes any difference i'm sorry for your loss.