What is marriage to you?why marriage?

Question

do we marry for love?
do we marry to make babies? or to make a family?
is there anything else?

do you think marriage means, two people supporting each other. it doesnt mean love only, or by having family only. Marriage is support between the two, marriage is for you and her.
Marriage is two people helping each other to go in the right path, especialy religion. so marriage is supporting each other, and love, and family and hardships, and etc. ?

Answer 1

Marriage is a social custom which has been taught as having value when performed in a certain way. It carries with it any number of assumptions and ideas which may or may not be accurate.

It's easy to demonstrate this. Say to a group of people, "I've been married for fifty years!" and you'll probably get a round of applause. They think it is a good thing. Say, "I've been married to my dog for fifty years!" and you'll probably be run out of town on a rail.

Few people will say that you must be married to love or to have family or to produce babies or pretty much any number of other things. What they will tend to say, however, is that a monogamous marriage between and man and a woman of similar ages (and, in some places, similar social status and race) is the BEST way of doing so. And by creating a huge social pressure to that effect it makes it partially true... going 'against the grain' can ruin committed relationships.

I think most of this social pressure derives almost entirely from tradition and from the specious claims of those who would control your life. I don't think it's necessary and I think it creates AT LEAST as many problems as it solves. Quite likely many, many more.

Don't get me wrong. I'm all for commitment of all kinds. But I think it's far better if its sincere instead of conformist, and if it's motivated from the heart rather than enforced by legal means. I encourage commitment, but discourage marriage.

Answer 2

Marriage in its true original meaning was a union pronounced by God to create a new. Two became one. I don't think anyone should marry for love. But I do think love helps and develops in time. Do not marry to make a family or children. Marry to share your life, struggles and joys with a help partner. Life is hard and a difficult situation for most of us. The most joy I have known is in the sharing with my mate.

Answer 3

Well, I am 25 and still unmarried.

But, I have definate opinions about marriage. I believe a lady saves herself for marriage. I believe a Man respects the lady he intends to marry.

I believe marriage is between one Man and one Woman (sad that has to even be clarified in this day and age).

I believe they marry for love, yes, of course. Marriage between two young people ideally should be to have a family and make a home together.

Marriage is a lifetime commitment, that's why it should not be enetered into lightly.

Answer 4

I agree, I got married for all those reasons.
I was 35, had my first child at 39. No rush dude.

Until I met the only person I could honestly say, "till death do us part" I was NOT getting married.

It is NOT like living together at all. The sense of freedom is halted by the sense of unconditional acceptance.
I had no intent of settling down, get married, have kids.... yet Mr. Right came along and I could not see a future without a "child" from 'Us" in it and a lifetime of being with this person.

We have been married 10+ years now. I admit it was hard at first, because when you are older its harder to "merge" and submit/compromise to traditional beliefs. So we created our own.

Answer 5

I am married, have been for 16 years, & trust me it is not just living together with a socal contract. It is a decision to love someone, to expand your concept of self to include another so that you care for, worry about, & give to with equal value as yourself. Thru marriage you learn & practice joining with another, & may very well find that in the joining you do not lose yourself but in fact become greater than the sum of your parts. You can never know what it is until you have experience real marriage.

Answer 6

I've thought about this too and I came up with a different interpretation.

During the marriage ceremony, two people swear to be binded with each other using love as their reason. But if you will really define love, love cannot be owed nor boxed. Love is supposed to be freely-given and is allowed to flourish. As we are beings of love, there is just no way for us to be caged. We fleet and change and is always wanting to be free. Expecting someone not to change is like expecting someone to never ever cut her hair because it should not even grow long.

It was said that marriage was invented so that man is ensured of sex whenever he wants to and so that woman is ensured of things needed for survival. I am observing that there is truth to this because eversince the sexual revolution and when women started working for their own, marriage became less of a necessity for couples, even if they are already having children.

If I were to marry, I think I should be prepared that my partner is always going to change. Also, I know for sure that I am always going to change if I were to always seek to grow. Change is inevitable but it should not be feared. This may be sad to realize at this moment but may be what is really needed someday.

My rule is never to marry unless I think I'd die for the rest of my life without that other person.

Answer 7

Marriage is a legal contract, with useful implications for estate management, health care decisions, and other uses. It is also a commitment, of two people to each other. Love, children, and families may be facilitated by marriage, but marriage is not essential to them, or vice versa.

Answer 8

Marriage is the bonding of two souls. We marry for lots of reasons,but love should be the #1reason. If you have a family from the marrige okay,if not okay you still have each other.

Answer 9

marriage , to me, is the partnership of two people, who can be better together then if they were apart, while maintaining their individuality and oneness, yes love plays a part, so does having a family
i would say the first time, i married more for love, the second more for family/children
neither marriage worked, so now i dont plan to do it again

Answer 10

It's a relationship for two people who understand the meaning of dedication and commitment. It's for people with emotional maturity and a sense of compromise.