I mean this kind of behavior makes absolutely no sense what so ever. You would think that people who are nice are more likely to have a lot of friends and be popular but the majority of the times that does not seem to be the case. If you think back to high school, who were the popular kids the mean, rude ones. And it still continues on in college, the workforce and places like the entertainment industry. I mean why?
2007-07-30 08:25:06 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
It does sound counterintuitive. I doubt that the argument for fear is proper since you are specifically noting that the rude ones are liked. However, I suspect that niceness and rudeness are not the deciding criteria in terms of popularity.
My guess is that it is a function of extrovertion and introversion. Extroverts tend to be more popular simply because they interact more often than introverts do. Or perhaps more properly, extroverts display their popularity more while introverts may be quieter with their circle of friends.
Perhaps a thought to add is that mean and rude people that are popular tend to not be mean or rude with their circle of friends. This perception is more of an outsider's view pointing in. Also I would speculate that the most popular people are not the rude ones at all, but rather the outgoing friendly ones. The rude ones just seem to stand out more.
2007-07-30 08:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by Ѕємι~Мαđ ŠçїєŋŧιѕТ 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe people who behave selfishly, entitled, and rude are well liked at all. I think nice people fear mean people and are too "nice" to do anything about it. Nice people don't rock the boat; they maintain the status quo because it is their job to get along with others. Furthermore, concerning "popularity," what do you think makes rude, entitled people so popular? Getting away with it for starters. However, in time, behavior like this is intolerable. It gets old fast. Most popular mean people will alienate others, who tire of the behavior and move on to more functional people who can actually fulfill their side of a friendship. The larger the social circle, the longer it will take for the mean popular person to burn his/her bridges, but eventually word will get around and Mr or Miss Popular will be known and Mr or Miss spoiled brat. Nothing lasts forever. Remove the audience and the actors will leave. Concerning the first part of your question on nice people who are "lonely" and "unpopular", I find it interesting how the labels you use to describe nice people are so negative. While it may seem that being nice is negative, changing your perspective could help you feel better. While it is true that we all crave and love intense, blood curdling experiences, the truth is such experiences are short lived. It's like running really fast during a marathon. For how long can you keep that up and still finish the race? At mile 10 your body could start to tire quickly and you may not make it to the 26th mile. The same is true about life. The daily grind of routine and hard work, both on the job and with friends, will keep you functional and stable for a long time.
2016-05-17 23:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwh .. I don't know. Can't nice people be popular? For example, Princess Dianna seemed 'nice' at least the bit we knew of her?
The qualities you dislike... "mean", "rude" ... nobody likes those qualities. It was a long time ago but the popular kids in high school weren't all mean and rude.
As for the workforce... well if the nasty rude man sitting over there in the corner office can turn over a few million bucks at 85% profit.. he can be as rude as he likes. That nice guy in the cubicle that turns over a 5% profit on $100,000 is borrowed time.
2007-07-30 13:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by Icy Gazpacho 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Where I come from the mean, rude people get beat down eventually. That's why they like to travel in big "packs" or "posses" because they feel safer that way and deep down they are weak and eventually they learn to compensate by being mean. Stare one down sometime & you wll see the fear.
Nice, lonely unpopular people need to seek out more of their own (and usually do). A group of 3 great friends is a great crowd...!
2007-07-31 05:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMGosh I so agree with you! I have no idea. But I've noticed that in my high school, a lot of the mean people are more popular because they have more confidence, which makes them more noticed and then that makes them popular. So maybe that's a reason why. I hope this answer helps! =)
2007-07-30 08:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people are right. It is fear, but also people like being mean and other mean people. They think it's funny. Think about comedy...most of the time some type of person or someone specific has to be insulted or humiliated and people love it and laugh. It's sad, but it's true. We just have to live with it.
2007-07-30 08:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Dreams♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is a big difference between liked and feared. I think if the popular ones are mean and rude, it is because people would rather be the devil's hand maid than in the path of his destruction.
2007-07-30 08:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just scared of the mean people. Nice people are to good for stuck up people anyway. I rather be friends with a nice person.
2007-07-30 08:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because they are more confident and don't rely on anything but self validation (or at least that's what they portray)! Meanwhile everyone validates them and their nasty behavior because they are confident enough not to back down when confronted by someone who is nice (who are usually pushover's which is why they are classified as nice!) Most people are attracted to the confidence more than the actual persona!
2007-07-30 08:31:50 · answer #9 · answered by Battle Cat 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I don't like mean and rude people. Sometimes I wonder why mean & rude people have dates or are married when some of the nice people aren't.
2007-07-30 08:30:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋