what do you think are the main reasons married couples argue?

Answer 1

I don't think we ever argue about money to be completely honest. We're both pretty laid back the majority of the time though.

I totally agree KIDS. ESPECIALLY when the marriage involves step-children!!!

Answer 2

there are many answers to this question. Bills, money, jealousy, being truthful, being hurt, there are many reasons.



but most of all people have their own opinions, that also means a husband and wife. so many arguments may start from this.



also anger about other things may cause an argument. for example. the wife may back into another car. or the husband my drop or knock off a very important vase or picture and break it. they know the other, did not do it on purpose, but they become angry.



why,? because they do not like what has happen, and feel they need to get the anger out. so they have someone to blame. and the one that broke it, would be the only one to blame, even though they did not try to do such a thing. it is just human nature. to blame someone. because you need to show the emotion. it would look a little strange to just stand in the room and cry for no reason. because someone did something.



but woman, do this at times. Why? because, a woman tends to hold back her feeling, such as anger and hurt they keep it inside, until it builds up to a point where it can no longer be held back. when this emotion does come out, it comes out as sadness and crying. the woman will say, they do not know why. but that is just a way the mind, removes this worry and stress that has built up over time.



but this too, may cause an argument. why? because the male will feel he has done something wrong to cause this, and the wife will not tell him why. in a way it hurts the husband, because he feels she has lost feeling for him, and in turn that hurts him.

but the point is. feelings have very much to do with their anger, so they argue.





so as you can see, your question covers a larger ranger, than just about the word argue. when it involves marriage.

Answer 3

I think stress is the main reason married couples argue. Money and being overwhelmed with the daily hustle and bustle of life are main things that contribute to the stress. Kids add to this. When women try to trap men by having a child, it makes me shudder because it is such a contradiction to have a screaming, demanding baby to make things last. I love babies, don't get me wrong but loads of work.

Answer 4

Stress or frustration. My husband and I argued about money, the house, the car breaking down, the kids, our families many things. We rarely argued about any of these things without some type of stress or frustration in the situation. I found that when we weren't stressed or frustrated we could talk about everything, but when things just keep building and happening all at once then we would just let it go. Eventually we would calm down, we'd feel better then be able to talk things over.
Stress is basically the underlying factor with money, the house, the kids, the job, family, the car, what ever, without the stress of the situation why argue?

Answer 5

I am a marriage counsellor and I am currently collecting data on relationships for a book.
From the 280 participants in my survey I have some stats. that may help with your question.
The main reasons married couples argue are:
Money - 55%
Sex - 44%
Pointless, silly issues - 43%
Children - 41%
Lack of communication - 41%
Chores - 37%
Lack of time for one another - 33%
Work - 26%
Inlaws - 25%
Past history - 23%
Jealousy - 21%
One person unhappy in the marriage - 17%
Infidelity - 11%

Participants were allowed to 'tick' as many of the categories as they wanted.

Anyone who wishes to participate in this survey it is still open. I would encourage all married couples to participate as it does highlight some issues that are common in many marriages. It is quite long- it takes approx 20min to complete. I do appreciate anyone who does participate, it helps me answer questions like this one!

The survey can be found at;
http://www.whenharrymarriedsally.com

Answer 6

They most argue about anything, and it's really getting to know the other individual. When you are not married and your single at the time, you spend and use your money like you want to. But now that you are married you have to set budget on how to spend and both of you are in agree with that decision.

Answer 7

I think it's a lack of communication and connectivity. I've been married for 11 years and I found that two people can be in the same situation and have a completely different "reality" of what happened. My wife has done things that completely annoy me and later, after looking at it from who she is, discovered that she was expressing her love. It has taken me years to figure it out, but I believe that the majority of the arguments in couples arise because one or both of the people are not connected to the relationship which causes a breakdown in communicating what you need and really listening to your partners needs.

Answer 8

I think it is mainly a lack of communication before they married. Things like money, children , work. should all be figured long before you marry. also I think people tend to think once the newness wares off then the everyday set in they aren't happy anymore. We need to look at the newness after it's gone as a fond memory we share. Reminisce and find joy in the past so that you can look to the future TOGETHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

The Reverend Billy Graham was quoted as saying, "If two people are married and never have any disagreements, one of them is not necessary."

To answer the question, professionals will tell you that men and women operate from a different side of the brain. The men from the "logical" side and the women from the emotional side and I think it's safe to say never the twain shall meet. It is a matter of give and take, to be shared.

Answer 10

Finances are a easy target...any time you put a title on why people fight I get worried. Yes money can make a marriage rough at times....but at some point in time....money became an issue when someone forgot to discuss something with someone. So I believe the real cause of hostility is simply COMMUNICATION or lack of.