is there anyone here who once believed being gay was a choice and could be reverted and now no longer does? Please answer if this is the case and explain what happened or why you changed your mind.
2007-07-30 08:07:44 · 12 answers · asked by le coq géant 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
thanks Andrew, real helpful.
2007-07-30 08:13:12 · update #1
Well, Mr Jello, i guess that means you're not gay, and don't even understand the definition. To say it's all about sex is so loony i don't know where to begin. And your daughter, well, she's lying or was never gay.
2007-07-30 08:57:24 · update #2
When I was younger and attended a baptist church every time the doors were open, I think that I bought into this theory. I did the whole "praying to change" thing and even went so far as to get married to a man.
In this process of self discovery, I hurt lots of people. I knew that no matter how much I prayed or how much I did what I was told to do that would help me to change, no a single thing ever did. I was just as attracted to girls after all that I put everyone through than I was the very first time that the thought came into my head.
When I finally accepted that I am as God intended me to be, I'm happy with my life and in my relationship.
I wish that for everyone.
2007-07-30 08:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by hapetobme 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As for Mr. Jello -- he probably made the story up -- or he is being lied to -- but that's not important. He can't even separate being gay which is NOT IN ANY WAY BEING ATTRACTED TO WOMEN ROMANTICALLY OR SEXUALLY, BUT BEING ATTRACTED ONLY TO MALES with a simple act of sex -- when the two are only tangentially related -- that alone proves that he has no idea of what homosexuality is.
Reyn
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2007-07-30 16:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I never believed being gay was a choice. I just believed some people were like that. Of course, my concept of gay was the stereotypical queen view. This is one reason I so easily denied my true self for so long. That coupled with a religious upbringing that told me it was a sin.
As a matured I learned to read and reason. This is when I began to form my own opinions vs just being some sheep blindly following the views of others.
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2007-07-30 15:17:38 · answer #3 · answered by Tegarst 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The only choice that we, gay people can make about our sexuality is either to have sex or not to have sex. We could probably even CHOOSE to sleep with female but we can't choose who we love or attracted to...
To all who believe that anyone can be "turned straight". Person can be pressured and pretend to be straight but deep inside....
Like someone said here, it is not an illness and there is no need for the cure
2007-07-30 15:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Beef Stroganoff 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Ok...this is only my PERSONAL opinion.....
now with that being said I think people who are gay and then feel that they can change or be converted are fooling theirselves and this is why. I personally know of a female who was gay/lesbian. Had everything that she wanted...successful business, doting girlfriend and a few family members who stood by her and loved her. It was the other few who had her thinking that all of her success and love was evil and that she needed to change. She left all of that behind and became an evangelist. Now she is struggling to get by...had two failed marriages and one miscarriage (which she says now is because God knew the child was the devil) blah blah blah. Everytime I see here she is with another female never a man and has even admitted that she still looks at women sexually but doesn't want to burn.
So to me they are only fooling theirselves because most always revert back to their old selves or they continue to be miserable just to please others. If it was about pleasing theirselves they wouldn't continue to lie to everyone and to theirself.
2007-07-30 15:18:33 · answer #5 · answered by sumptinsweet4u 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Once again, the only choice that we had in the matter was whether we came out or not.
"Turning straight" is nothing but going back into the closet.
2007-07-30 15:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by nr347 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can look into "Ex-ex-gays". Or read the book by Mel White, a minister who tried to "pray away the gay" for years (of course it didn't work).
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mel_white
There is also a website that argues against the ministries that claim to be able to "cure" gays.
http://www.truthwinsout.org
2007-07-30 15:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by Robin W 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
My stepdaughter's first sexual experiences were with another woman. She was involved with this person for nearly 6 years. With out any doubt, you would have fully accepted her into your community.
We told her that we loved her, but wouldn't support her choice.
After 6 years she realized we were right and gave up her relationship with women. She is now engaged to a fine young man. And yes, she says it is her choice whom she has sex with.
I would like to know why people still believe that having sex with someone is not a choice, something you're forced to do by a condition of your birth. Many people make different decisions through their lives.
2007-07-30 15:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by Dr Jello 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Yes, probably, when I was 8 or 9 and didn't understand how humans work, or how God works.
Fortunately, I became educated, and came to realize my orientation with absolutely no "choice" involved.
2007-07-30 15:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
sad to admit that once i did. i blamed it on the devil, but was largely influenced by my parents, and tried to make it go away because it brought me so much trouble.
one thing convinced me otherwise though: i tried to cure myself by having sex with a guy. although he was pretty good by normal standards, i felt like i was being violated. i don't do violated well and came to a point of clarity: i like breasts, i am dyke, hear me roar.
never looked back
2007-07-30 15:16:34 · answer #10 · answered by Kariana S 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋