While many men state that they love women, are attracted to women, etc... why do women think (or pretend to think) that men are unattractive? Is it foolish pride on women's part to hate to admit they find men attractive?
On one response to another question, one woman said she only finds 0.1% of men to be "sexy". Is that true?
Why do women hate admitting that they're attracted to the opposite sex?
My theory:
It seems like a lot of women try to act like men are unattractive.
I think this has something to do with a "power" move by many women, as women want to hold the upper-hand and the position of power regarding sex & attraction, so they act like most guys are disgusting and unattractive. To many of these women, suggesting that a man is "sexy" or "gorgeous" is a means of submission to the opposite sex.
Men on the other hand do not care about this power ploy, as they find it trivial; and readily state that many of these women are "hot" and attractive.
2007-07-30 07:51:20 · 15 answers · asked by LycraSpandex 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Here's the other question:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AnuE2oCWySP3e19MtOJng1cYxgt.?qid=20070730111744AAxvtME
2007-07-30 07:54:32 · update #1
moxie_slacker: You seem annoyed and upset. Perhaps because I told the truth and struck a nerve? Instead of making personal attacks against me like a child; how about addressing the issue instead?
I'm a "random dude online", and you're a random chick online. Your point?
I'm not talking about "all women being interested in men"... I'm talking about so-called heterosexual women that hate to admit they find men attractive. Moxie, it's safe to say that you fit the description in my question, as you are also an arrogant narcissit that feels insecure about stating she finds men attractive.
You mad? LOL
2007-07-30 08:14:05 · update #2
Let me also state the premise:
Men like to feel desired... just about as much as women.
Many women fail at the ability to make her man feel desirable. Truth. Men continuously go on about "hot" women, and women enjoy this attention, despite the fact that many women pretend this attention is unwanted. She likes to feel desired.
2007-07-30 08:37:45 · update #3
Delicious: Wow! The first truthful and honest post on this question so far!
As far as men being called "players" and "studs" when having sex with many women, whereas a woman is seen as a "s.lut" and a "ho" for doing the same -- well, that is something I want to go in to later (perhaps a different question). However, I will say that this notion is fair? Why? For one, with all of the perks and advantages a woman gets in the dating/sex scene, why do women want to keep all of their perks, yet want to "even out" the few perks men get? Is that unfair?
The reason why men are congratulated and admired when they have sex with many women, is that MEN are the ones that have to WORK HARDEST for the sex, have to almost always initiate conversation and make the first move... this is a lot of pressure put on the men. A woman that wants sex is guaranteed to get sex and she doesn't have to work hard for it, other than drop a few hints. Since it's so much harder for a man to get sex, it's only fair
2007-07-30 08:45:13 · update #4
moxie_slacker: Why would I not "like" you. I don't even KNOW you. This is the first time I've ever seen your screen name, and you're already saying I have something against you. I think you put way too much importance on yourself. As far as you being a "s.lut", well that was TMI on your part, since I never asked. But, alas, that description of you is not at all surprising. Also, no one said anything about whether you're "smart" or not. The fact that you have to announce such a thing speaks volumes of your own insecurity.
I have no problem with women, just the misandry from women that goes on.
Yes, I was going to respond because I always respond when false accusations about me are made. I stand up to lies and libel. That's just who I am.
2007-07-30 08:53:17 · update #5
Well this is the thing. As you can see a ton of women do find men sexy and attractive. And find men good looking physically. But while many can rationalize this and can actually think with their brains: Recognize and make sense of their own sexual attraction to men, some can't or rationalize their attraction too well. And basically say what society has conditioned them to feel, especially since so much ads and everything has to do with beauty and women beautifying that some women internalize this and feel they are the most attractive sex and men are machines or something. But not realizing men and women are yin and yang, men weren't supposed to look pretty like women, yet that should not take away from their physical attractiveness. Just men are good looking in the masculine way, just like women in their feminine way.
Men look good as men, women look good as women, you are not supposed to compare apples to oranges, and because both have attractive features that are unique to each other, and thus probably I would assume the sexual attraction. Because other wise this judgment could be coming from one's definition, but everyone can have a billion point of views or definition. Therefore it is not concrete and nothing more than little definitions without substance. Yet what is concrete is the stimulation, attraction or lust visually/physically, that I would believe to imply the true meaning. And that would be just for straight sexes but bisexuals whom more attracted to one sex in this way than the other. I mean there's more to this, but I'll stop now. But I have chatted with women like this before, like the lovely delicious stated with their feelings. And after my analyzing of all these meanings and breaking things down intellectually, many of the women wrote back to me like this "oh wow, very good points, I never saw it like that before, thanks" "oh wow, very good", or “that's an interesting topic or perspective to bring up”.
Which after seeing it and expecting that this would make sense or should be automatically known. It Made me just scratch my head and realize societal condition does affect people and some women so much that they just say or think what "things are supposedly are" And I think to myself. Did these women ever step back for a second and realize truly what they are saying and the meaning behind it? because it quite contradicts many things as their natural responses are concerned, especially when asking numerous questions strategically. I makes think like "how does she not know this or is unaware of this" I mean it's not rocket science, just basic stuff pretty much, yet she does not know how to explain or rationalize her attraction. And another thing when I am speaking of this, I am not talking about arousal or being attracted because of the physical. I realize women generally aren't as visual sexually as men and that stuff.
BUT, what I am talking about is just talking about is good looking recognition, or perhaps sexual admiration, which some women will fight so hard to not admit that they check guys from time to time or even a little discreet ogling. Obviously, guys look more as the horny sex we are, but women do too, even if it's sparingly, they have. So with that said and done it can just be annoying when some women act this way or in denial, because like I said it's human nature to look or admire even for women. And I would assume if they are attracted to men or more so the admiration is different between when looking at an attractive man compared to an attractive woman. I would assume the admiration to be sexual or more sexual while just comparison for women. But don't worry; it's more to do with societal conditioning for some women, than them not finding men good looking or sexy, etc. And as I have said a good amount of women don't deny the attractiveness of men or actually think for their own and not of what is construed of society.
2007-07-30 15:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by Brennan Huff 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just nature. The surest path to reproductive success for in most animals for the male is to try to impregnate as many females as possible. Females, on the other, can only get pregnant so many times. So for females the game is about picking the right male, the one that will give your offspring good genes. Males are beggars and females are choosers.
Therefore, the male's instinct is to bang every available female in sight, while the female's instinct is to pick only the best males. Hence, women have much higher standards of attractiveness than men.
2007-07-30 08:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by Somes J 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because if they aren't ripped, got a 6-pack, and a perfect macho face, they ARE unattractive and not sexy to them. It's that simple.
2015-04-25 17:14:15 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my personal reason is I feel very guilty for having erotic thoughts. My parents never pushed it on me- but no one really accepts that sex is an ok thing to think about either. I do not feel comfortable on the subject. So for a guy to be cute enough for me to admit he is "sexy" it really takes a lot. Most guys a find attractive- but I have never used the word "sexy" to describe a man (at least out loud) and the guys in which I would are-er- damn sexy. Also, I'm very withdrawn, so a part of me knows that if I admit to liking a guy and he doesn't like me back I will be hurt. For me it all comes down to insecurites and conditioning. But that whole power thing plays a part. I would want a guy to prove he has power and not just by his looks.
2007-07-30 07:59:25 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Your point is valid.
I often see evidence of this theory here on Y!A.
Understand that not all of us feel this way, and obviously most of these answers are from those of us who do find men attractive.
But there are a good number of females that believe that the male anatomy is less attractive, especially concerning genitalia.
Then there are those that are power trippin.
Its most likely a combination of society placing importance on women's appearance, and females feeling insecure...an insecure female might think that if they are the only sex that's attractive, that gives them power, leverage, bargaining chips.
Personally...I find both sexes attractive.
I love pretty, soft feminine curves and I love the handsome, masculine male physique.
I adore everything about you men....your strength, your scent, your deep voices...and I absolutely love the fact that men have such high sex drives and will openly admit how much they crave a woman's body and touch.
Also keep in mind though that society has always praised men for their sexual prowess, and frowned on women for ours.
Society says:
A sexual man is a hero, a player, da man.
A sexual woman is a slvt, a hoe, a tramp, loose morals.
Edit:
Hero of the house...
I wouldnt say that teen girls have the highest standards, I would say that they are the most shallow (I was extremely so)
they judge based on looks more so than personality or character. They really arent wise enough to know what matters in life.
2007-07-30 08:33:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 16⤊ 2⤋
Don't know what you're talking about, lots of women talk about how attractive and sexy men are.
2007-07-30 20:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by edith clarke 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
i really don't think women are just saying that. i think it's just that women are not attracted to guy that they can do better than. unlike men, who are attracted to even the most average looking women with plenty of flaws, women are only attracted to guys who are way up there.
teenage girls have the highest standards. they are only attracted to the cute guys around their age and they are only attracted to only a VERY small percentage of good looking older guys.
as women get older(25 and older), they start to find your average guys in their teens and early 20s very attractive. and they are now attracted to the really good looking guys in their 30s and older. but any guy who doesn't look really young(not under 16 though and still can't be ugly) or just really good looking will not be the least bit attractive to them.
this is what i gather so far.
2007-07-30 08:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 4⤋
Nah...its just her...women just don't let guys know they are horny unless you have a girlfriend or a wife. Just earlier today (I had bought a webcam yesterday) i was on a webcam site called stickam.com and two girls joined my chat room asking to see my penis.
2007-07-30 08:12:51 · answer #8 · answered by David D 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't find too many men attractive, as attraction to me is a combination of several factors rather than the instant appearance. I need the mental connection, intelligence, education and I need to observe his ways, in addition to his physical appearance before I find him attractive. It's not a matter of being afraid of admititng I'm attracted to men or trying to pull power trips- I love men. This is simply how I function.
Maybe it's hard for you to understand because men and women function differently; we're less visual?
2007-07-30 08:02:12 · answer #9 · answered by Lioness 6 · 4⤊ 5⤋
Mercy!!! Your premise is such a rationalization regarding the "power" issue between genders. I enjoy sex, and most females I know do. If you disapprove of the behavior of a females masculine behavior, oh well. Just understand that you do not have access to these females sexual favors.
2007-07-30 07:59:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋