What should I do?What would you do?

Question

A few days ago I wrote to get advice about a man who just will not leave me alone.Thank you for the advice.?
OHHHHH! He is making me crazy and sad.Please take a peek at my question from a few days ago.I didnt have enough room to write everything here.Here are some of the things that he says to me when I break up with him.What do you think?:

Why won't you let me be your boyfriend? Why don't you want me, like I want you? Why won't you be my girlfriend? I don't understand. I just want you to want me. I just want you to touch me, to hug me, to kiss me....I just want to be with you. Why won't you let me be your boyfriend?

Why can't I ever be happy? What am I doing wrong? Why do I always have to be alone? I don't understand. What's wrong with me? Why won't you be with me? I'm so sad. I'm so very sad & alone. And you won't be with me. No one will.

I tried so hard. I really tried to be your boyfriend. I tried to be good to you. As good as I can be & I don't know what I'm doing wrong.

Sonya, I'm so alone all the time. I don't want to be alone anymore. Why won't you be my girlfriend? Why can't we be happy together? I don't know what to do anymore. I'm trying so hard to be a good man. I don't know how to be better.

I wish you'd come back to me.

With love,
Kevin

Answer 1

Kevin sounds lonely and depressed, but that's no reason for you to indulge in his fantasies, it could lead to a dangerous obsessive situation for you. Don't respond to any of it, as it just fuels the fire, and eventually he should just get the hint and move on. If you feel threatened or like he's stalking you though, keep a log of everything he's writing/calling/saying and take it to the police.

Answer 2

My advice is to tell him strait foreward that he is obsessive, needy, and suggest for him to seek counseling and leave you alone. If he doesn't comply, call the police.

Answer 3

If you are uncomfortable it might be time to consider a restraining order. This seems to border on stalking.