Our roommate and I are not getting along. He got a new girlfriend, and she is constantly fighting with my husband and I. She practically lives there, but isn't on the lease. She's causing many problems, and I have become very stressed. If I continue to live here, I will end up depressed. I can't eat in the kitchen or watch tv in the living room because she is always there. My husband and I fight constantly and have thought of divorce because of all the problems with our roommate.
My husband is in the military and we really want to move on base, but we have to get out of our lease!!! We've lived there for a year, and still have 7months left! WE need to get out of the lease! Any ideas? I've already requested a copy of the lease.
2007-07-30 06:03:13 · 6 answers · asked by reina87 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Renting & Real Estate
The thing is my husband is a corporal and the guy we live with is a sgt. He is on the lease, so we can't kick him out. And whenever we try to talk to him he threatens to send my husband to iraq because sgt's are in charge of the list of names to be sent to iraq.
2007-07-30 06:21:37 · update #1
I would talk to the landlord and tell them that the living sittuation has become unbearable and you need to find your own place on base and wish to leave . You may have to pay your lease off but really in the long run it would probably be worth it . good luck .
2007-07-30 06:12:15 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having made a poor roommate choice isn't going to be a valid lease-breaker, I'm afraid. In all likelihood, you're legally bound by the lease.
Once you get a copy of the lease, pay attention to a few specific aspects. *Maybe* one aspect will offer a way out.
Who signed it? You, your husband, the roommate?
What, if anything, does it say about guests? Does it define how many consecutive nights a person stays to be considered a resident? Does it specify that the joint tenants--that's whoever signed the lease--shall have any say over guests?
How many people are allowed to inhabit the house or apartment? Is there a maximum occupancy?
Other options include sitting down with the roommate and explaining how things are stressful because his girlfriend is so often there. No judgments, no raised voices, no accusations, just discuss what you all can do to improve the situation. A worst-case scenario I've seen in use is the literal division of the living space, by area or by time. ("You've got the kitchen from 5 to 6:30, and you leave it clean. We've got it from 6:30 to 8." or "This half of the living room is ours, and you and Jane are not to enter it, or put anything in it, or disturb our quiet enjoyment of it.")
Of course, if your marriage is threatened by this situation, maybe it's worth the financial loss to get out and the hell with what it costs you. Only you can judge that.
2007-07-30 06:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would speak with the landlord, or property manager first. Bring them in the loop. Another step would be to confront the roommate about this problem's his girlfriend is causing, and let them know that you will be taking these concerns to the property owner.
Another option, depending on your husbands rank in the military, I would have him bring the issue to his first sgt or commander, and see if there is something they can do if the above does not work. In the past, I have wrote up a memorandum to landlords requesting them to release my subordinates from a lease and have been quite flexible in the past. I hope some of this helps you out.
2007-07-30 06:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by Que 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is your male roommate officially on the lease? or is it just you and your husband?
if all 3 of you are on the lease, read the lease and see if it has anything in it about visitors or annoyances.
i al afraid since all 3 of you signed the lease - you may be stuck for another 7 months.
Also look at your lease to see if there is an "out clause"...sometimes you can pay $$ to get out of a lease early. you can attempt to talk with the landlord and explain the situation...see if he is willing to work with you.
on the other hand...if only you and your husband signed the lease...then serve this guy with a 30 day notice and get him out of there....
good luck :)
2007-07-30 06:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by Blue October 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your roommate and his new girlfriend would like to stay there, maybe you could talk to the landlord and explain whats going on and see if there is anyway that the new girlfriend can take over your guys' half of the lease. This way, you aren't burning any bridges.
2007-07-30 06:14:56 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to the landlord and see if something can be worked out.
2007-07-30 06:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by firebirdstevev 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋