Older guy stalking..?

Question

I work for a popular company that advertises on tv quite frequent. However there was only one incident I had where a man in his 50's whom I helped and I was being courteous to him..Apparently he wrote my first and last name( as required we give when we are speaking to consumers) and did a search in PA to find me. He called me up after 10pm and I was stunned to even know he would go this far with me..I told him to stop calling me as I was married and what he wanted.
He stated he wanted to talk to me and get to know me..The jesture was nice but it freaked me out.I told my husband about this incident and told me there wasn't anything the police can do. I don't want to jepordize my job or I dont want to hurt anyones feelings but the only thing I can do is change my number..

BTW, he found my information on directory searches on the internet..He has all my information where i live,what is my phone number,ect

Answer 1

I would contact your local police department, and explain the situation. Here are more things you can do...also. Tell the stalker "no" once and only once, and then never give him the satisfaction of a reaction again. The more you respond, the more you teach him that his actions will elicit a response. This only serves to reinforce the stalking. Get a dog. Block your address at DMV and Voter Registration. If you don’t, anyone can get it for the asking. Never give out your home address or telephone number. Get a post office box and use it on all correspondence. For those places that will not accept a post office box, change "PO Box" to "Apt." and leave the number. Put this address on your checks. When the stalker gets your home telephone number, don’t change it. Instead, always let an answering machine pick-up. Get a new, unlisted number, and give it to everyone who calls but the stalker. Gradually, only your stalker will be using your old number – it will become his private line. If it upsets you when he calls, put the machine in a room you don’t use. You can even have someone else monitor the tapes. This way, the stalker will think he is still getting through to you, although you will never make the mistake of picking up when he calls. Whenever you close off one avenue for a stalker, he will find another and it could easily be worse. Document everything. Even if you have decided not to go the legal route, you may change your mind. Keep answering machine tapes, letters, gifts, etc. Keep a log of drive-bys or any suspicious occurrences. Take a self-defense class. Have co-workers screen all calls and visitors. Don’t accept packages unless they were personally ordered. Remove any name or identification from reserved parking at work.
Destroy discarded mail. Equip your gas tank with a locking gas cap that can be unlocked only from inside the car.
Get a cell phone and keep it with you at all times, even inside your home, in case the stalker cuts your phone lines.
If you think you are being followed while in your car, make four left- or right-hand turns in succession. If the car continues to follow you, drive to the nearest police station, never home or to a friend’s house. Never be afraid to sound your car horn to attract attention. Acquaint yourself with all-night stores and other public, highly populated places in your area. Consider moving if your case warrants it. No, it’s not fair, but nothing is fair about stalking. If you stay and fight through the legal system, you might get some justice, (although not necessarily your definition of it), but you almost certainly won’t get safety: There is no possibility of life imprisonment for stalkers. Research how to keep your destination secret. Stalking and victims’ organizations can help. Don’t be embarrassed and think you caused this somehow. Stalkers need no encouragement. Your shame is your stalker’s best weapon. It makes you more likely to engage him or agree to plea bargains, which are bound to be taken as sympathy and we know where that leads. Instead, tell everyone you know that you’re being stalked, from neighbors to co-workers, so that when the stalker approaches them for information about you, they will be alerted not to divulge anything and will let you know he’s been around. One young widow moved to escape her stalker, a stranger she had never really met. Yet, after finding out where she moved, he was also able to pinpoint her exact location by showing her helpful neighbors pictures he had surreptitiously taken of her and her children, telling them that he was her estranged husband and she had kidnapped the kids. Join one of the stalking victims’ support groups that are springing up all over the country. They can be invaluable resources for information in your community (such as how local law enforcement handle these cases) as well as provide essential support. See the resources section for organizations that can help. If there is no group in your area, start one. It only takes two. Tragically, we can guarantee you are not the only person being stalked in your area.

Answer 2

You can't keep being nice to him out of fear of losing your job. You have to be clear and firm that he crossed a line. That your only contact with him will be professional at the office during business hours. If he doesn't quit then tell your boss and have that account transfered to a male. Then if he calls again tell him he's not your client any more and just repeat his new contact's name and business number. If repeating this a few times doesn't work, let him know you feel threatened by him contacting you at home and will have to report any further contact to the police as stalking. If he doesn't quit then you should report it all. They will advise you from there.

Answer 3

first i would go to your employer and get that policy amended because that could get alot of there employees into similar situations. sugest giving out first name, or ID numbers if first name isn't good enough. that way they can still identify who took the original call but protect the identity of there employees. second even though the Cops wont do much still report it, just in case anything does go bad they have a record of complaints for evidence (a paper trail). third you can't really avoid hearting his feeling because no mater what you do eventualy he will get the message and be hurt. that being said i would ask him to stop and if he doesn't go to the police

Answer 4

It's not stalking to call you or run an Internet search on you, but it sure is creepy! I agree with that emotion.

It could become stalking if the guy doesn't stop after you told him not to call again.

I'd encourage you to report the situation to your company in writing and keep a copy for your own records.

Answer 5

Actually, the police can do something and often will. This is stalking. The normal first step is for the police to call the stalker and warn him to stop. This can solve the problem in many cases.

Answer 6

Get a whistle and everytime he calles blow into the phone

Answer 7

you dont want to get hurt you should tell your job abou twhat happen...what type of job deosnt want you to save?

Answer 8

Get a can of Mace.

Answer 9

buy a gun!