does this count as homophobia?

Question

if a person does not mind whether a person is gay but does not like the lifestyle they have, does that make them homophobic.

Answer 1

can you really separate the two?
So in your mind gays are not supposed to express love, physical desire and intimacy, or lust?
Do you think only heterosexuals should have those pleasures even if they are not for the sole purpose of procreation?

Answer 2

I believe that means that the person is prejudiced, but not necessarily homophobic.

Some people who do not really care -- or even understand what homosexuality is -- but, due to what they have been told by others -- they hate what they think the homosexual lifestyle is. Some have been very surprised, and changed their views, after meeting us (we do not fit the picture they've been spoon-fed, after all). I do not consider these people homophobic, just misled and prejudiced. Such people are usually from conservative religious subgroups, often evangelical or fundamentalist in nature. *shrug*

The issue for me is when those same people, still saying that they do not dislike US, but only our "lifestyle" attempt to stop equal rights laws from passing, or say that, for example, Jonathan, who has been my life for almost 16 years, shouldn't have legal rights over my medical care when I am dying -- which is likely one day to happen, my family is not very long lived at all. Or when they say that we should not be allowed to own property together, or that he should have to be a class f inheritor, when a straight domestic partner (common law) would be counted as a spouse after only 7 years.

When those things turn up in the debate, then I question their assertion that they do not dislike US -- because they are not fighting a mythic lifestyle on such issues -- they are fighting human beings. They are not saying "I don't like what you do in bed, but you are ok." They are saying "I don't like what you do in bed and I'm going to hurt you and destroy you." I don't know what to call that attitude, if it isn't homophobia.

So, a person who doesn't like our "lifestyle" mythic or not -- but who likes us --- absolutely fine, not homophobic, though I think missing much of life. A person who pursues methods of harming us, just as homophobic as a person who pursues harming people of other races is racist.

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PS And to Big Red -- read all my answers if you want Big -- you will find that I NEVER call anyone homophobic without good reason, in fact, you may have alot of trouble finding where I ever called anyone homophobic, unless they used the term themselves.

Answer 3

Good question. I'm gay and i would say no. Unless that person dislikes ALL of the lifestyle habits, in which case it make for the same thing. I don't think dislikeing some makes a person homophobic, such as drug use.

Answer 4

i'm uncertain - i think of the guy you're quoting might desire to quite be directly to some thing. i think of homophobia probably could be tied to a familiar concern of persons denying their socially assigned intercourse roles. i've got never thought-approximately homophobia and sexism as being based on a similar concern, yet this may be genuine. I do, in spite of the shown fact that, additionally believe you on the be conscious f*g, or maybe the words gay or queer that are on occasion used via straight away human beings as derogatory without unavoidably touching on something gay. in spite of the shown fact that it extremely is a bad determination of words, because of the fact it implies an intolerance to homosexuality, and if that may not your meant implication, then you definitely're doing your self a disservice. Eohan - this is largely a tip for you, in case you ought to preface a fact with "no offense" that probably means that subconsciously you assert some thing in the hopes of offending somebody.

Answer 5

I don't see how that can make you homophobic. If that person were straight would that person still not like the lifestyle the person lives? I have plenty of friends that are good ppl, but some of the things they do may not be for me....I don't believe your sexuality makes you a bad person, just the things that you do in-between is the stuff that stinks and turns ppl off...I'm basically here because this is the best forum and the ppl are honest and sincere to self if nothing else...We straight ppl are the judgemental ones...

Answer 6

According to their definition and the answers on here it seems so.
I think they should learn what PHOBIC or PHOBIA means before tossing it out and name calling everyone who doesn't share their views. Reality is that even medical science can't support their lifestyle with any correlating findings IE: a GAY gene and what not, so THEY need to be more tolerant of people who don't agree with them:
Phobia: Noun
1. A persistent, abnormal, and irrational fear of a specific thing
I think it's all too easy for them to be "intolerant" and get away with it, because they take advantage of being a protected group, in 2007, with anti discrimination laws.
They can toss it out BUT not take it.

Answer 7

No you don't have to like the lifestyle to accept a person for who they are.
If you went out of your way to avoid a person in the lifestyle well then you are being homophobic.

Answer 8

no it does not. just because you do not like there lifestyle does not mean anything. you have the right to your own opinion and the right to feel how you feel. being homophobic is saying that you hate all "gays" and you wish that they would die or something like that. but if you get along with them and you are not "gay" yourself then that is not homophobic.

Answer 9

If a person doesn't mind gay people, why does the ''lifestyle'' even enter into their thought process? People need to worry about what's in their own homes, and stop peeping into others'.

Answer 10

A little, if you assume that all homosexuals have the same "lifestyle". I'm assuming you mean a promiscuous lifestyle?