How did you heal from an abusive relationship such as emotional abuse ??? Ived been with man who is manipulative and controlling for a year and a half..I l broke up with him for the second time yesterday and i feel like crap.
2007-07-30 05:04:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sometimes we can become addicted to bad relationships. It feels like hell to get out, and you feel like you are compelled to go back..you don't want to, but you do...and you excessively worry about how the other person is doing instead of taking care of YOU. When you're involved in an abusive relationship, you carry far too heavy of a burden...two people's happiness- and truthfully, you're not even capable right now of caring for your own. I know. I've been there. What would probably really help you the most is to see a counselor or therapist who specializes in domestic violence. These therapists also know a great deal about emotional abuse. You'll be able to talk to someone who understands, who has good advice to give, who will listen. And right now, you need that. You need to build your self-esteem back up, to gain confidence in yourself, to be stronger. You need hope. It really helps to talk to someone who has the ability to understand and can give you good advice. Please think about it. It will help keep you from going back to a life that makes you miserable. You deserve happiness. You are very vulnerable right now, and you need all the support you can surround yourself with. It is true that the victims of abuse are as sick, or sicker, than the abuser himself. Living with an abusive person takes a huge toll on the victim's psyche. It's not easy to heal from. But there are people out there who can help. I want you to understand this: emotional abuse is as serious as physical abuse. The person who is being abusive isn't going to change. They may say they want to, and may even mean it, and often they are even very sorry for it, but in the end, the chances of real change are almost none. You can't change him. There is nothing you can do to change him. Get the help you need for yourself. Learn to value yourself at least that much. Give yourself a chance at a better life. Getting help now will be easier than trying to do it later on. And it will help you to not fall into this pattern again with someone else. Good luck to you!
2007-07-30 05:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep moving on , the crappy feeling gets better with time .
You don't EVER have to take any form of abuse from any person !
2007-07-30 12:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by Bemo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just kind of symbolically tied it off in my head.
Just "It is done, and it won't happen again"
It prolly will again, but oh well.
(i was the abused, in case it wasn't clear)
2007-07-30 12:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by devinthedragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope
2007-07-30 12:09:46 · answer #4 · answered by mako_d_2005 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Healing from abuse is a hard process for each individual. It takes time to heal from abuse regardless of whether it happened just once or repeatedly of times. We often get out of one abusive relationship and usually get right into another abusive relationship.
The cycle keeps repeating until we learn to deal with our problems within ourselves to make us less vulnerable. Victims of Abuse keep ending up in abusive relationships often because we are vulnerable. People can sense it when someone has been abused before.
It is important for victims of abuse to be alone for a while in order to help themselves by dealing with the issues. It is good for them to be alone for a little while without being in a relationship. It is important for them to realize that they can function without a partner. A romance relationship isn't a scale of their self worth. It is possible for them to take care of themselves.
We are still vulnerable unless we work through our problems. In order for women to have successful romance relationships with a wonderful man who isn't abusive then we need to work on ourselves. We need to work on our issues in order to help us heal from the abuse.
It will help us be able to function normal. It will help us be stronger. It will help us be a more happy person. Victims of Abuse need to remember that they aren't damaged forever. It is possible to heal from abuse and live a normal life. It is possible to have a boyfriend or husband who isn't abusive towards you.
Victims of Abuse often have a difficult time understanding that they deserve to be in a normal romance relationship. We can't just force ourselves to forget about the abuse or not deal with it. It will eventually catch up to you even if you just try to forget about it or not deal with it. It isn't dealing with it. It isn't working through it. Abuse affects people years later whether we realize it or not.
Everyone deserves to be a romance relationship that isn't abusive. Everyone deserves to have a special individual in their life that loves them and cares about them. You need a partner that will stand up for you. Your partner needs to be there for you. Someone who doesn't takes sides with your family to gang up on you. The way your partner treats your family and friends along with other people says allot about themselves.
Pay attention to the way your partner treats you. If he or she says or do things that makes you feel terrible about yourself then its time to walk away from the relationship. It is better to be alone than to end up with years of damage. People can function without a partner despite what we have been taught to believe.
It is important to see a counselor or read self help. Be alone for a little while before getting into another romance relationship. You can have a normal happy life and a romance relationship without abuse. It is possible. You deserve the best along with everyone else.
2007-07-30 12:12:56 · answer #5 · answered by Indiana Frenchman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what> Do not go back to him.
2007-07-30 12:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by thomas m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just move on
2007-07-30 12:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by Neuromancer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋