can do it on my own again?
All me and him do is argue and no trust and make life miserable not only for him and me but the kids too.
If I move back with my mom then he might use this against me in court for the kids.
If I stay and get kicked out of my home because i can no longer afford the rent and utilities due to a cut in my financial help then i may have a hard time getting a new place to live with an eviction.
If i move to my moms temporary, then I can continue looking for work and school and take the risk of the kids father taking me to court for the kids due to my moving situation. My two brothers live with mom.
Can you see any other option? Thanks for any feedback.
2007-07-30 05:01:46 · 12 answers · asked by beachgirl90 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
From what we've talked about and from what you're saying here, it sounds to me like you need to move in with your mom.
I thought you were already separated? If not, then I would move out if he won't and if the only place you have to go is your mom's then DO IT!
You are putting your children in a bad environment with things if they are truly out of control. If they aren't out of control, then see if you can work it out with him.
Sounds like you know what is the best answer ... so GOOD LUCK! :) I hope it all works out for you.
2007-07-31 11:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say give it a chance to your husband. If there is something wrong in the way both of communicate till u have arguments, then find the root of the problem. Try to talk it out on why each of u are at each other throats.For the sake of the kids and the marriage, do not give in yet. Fight it through. Find counseling and comfort through friends and others. But believe me, being a single parents is really very hard but it is not imposibble. The loneliness is just too depressing when it creeps into u.
2007-07-30 21:21:59 · answer #2 · answered by Ram 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can judge you all they want, but you know when you have tried everything and it just isn't going to work. That is my situation. I left my husband two months ago after several years of hell, and I moved in with my parents. I have three children and it is not easy, but if your mom is willing to give you a little time to get on your feet then do it. Within these two months, I have been able to get my head on straight after the emotional abuse, take care of my kids much better than before. My husband made 150,000+ a year and I stayed home with my kids, but thankfully, I had 16 years of experience prior to staying home and I was able to get a job right back where I left off. His money meant nothing. Of course I hate to leave my kids in daycare, but my situation was dangerous and I had no choice but to leave before it got worse. The court won't take your kids from you, they would have to prove how seriously unfit you are to do that, so just prove to yourself and your kids that you have what it takes to have a better life than that. Best of luck to you.
2007-07-30 05:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by precious1971 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He cannot take the kids from you due to where you are living unless it is unhealthy for them, eg. people using drugs around them, etc. Speak to an attorney to make sure that you have your bases covered. Tell the secretary that you can't afford the appt at the time and they should be able to work something out or look for a legal support office that works pro bono.
2007-07-30 05:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by ladydavonia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If all you do is argue when you're with him, that's cruel to the kids. Move in with your mom, that shows responsibility and respect for your children. If you explain the situation to the court, they shouldn't take the kids from you. Odds are you'll have to share the children anyway, so forget about that for now.
Do what's best for you and what is least stressful for the kids.
2007-07-30 05:09:49 · answer #5 · answered by RJ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your sort of screwed.
If you move back in with him, you are not only using him, but you are giving him great deal of evidence to prove that you are not fit to have the children.
You move in with your mom, your proving that your not financially stable enough to support your children.
You get evicted your prove that your not financially stable enough to support your children (the eviction wont stop you from getting another place).
Given those options i would probably pick going to your mothers.
Assuming the "Financial help" your refering to is a cut in your welfare benefits then i can't think of any other thing to do.
2007-07-30 05:14:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go back to him???? NO WAY!!!!! You shouldn't have problems because you're going back to your mom's place TEMPORARILY..... you're not going to sit down and do nothing while being with her, you should be back on track in a few weeks only..... don't think he can do anything against you in court that quick. You're just too afraid of this man but the truth is that sometimes we think them capable of doing worse things than they actually can do. You shouldn't be afraid and you should definitely leave that hell you're living in....... for your AND the kids' sake!!!
2007-07-30 05:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by Lprod 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go to ur moms , get a job, move on and up! get an order of protection against him and get a court to order child support. go to the child support enforcement office they can help.
2007-07-30 05:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by hjkrol59 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to mum. The arguments will bebad for the kids. They need stability right now Not more upheaval
2007-07-30 05:17:30 · answer #9 · answered by MissE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you get a roommate and be able to stay where you are? That would cut your bills in half. You also need to sue your husband for child support.
2007-07-30 05:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋