Yesterday i was at the mall, and i saw a boy who looked to be about 6 or 7 get a public spanking! I didn't see what he did, but his mom sat down on a bench, took him over her knee, and spanked his butt about 10 times!!! I had no idea anyone still beat their kids like that in this day and age, i would like to think that our society has moved beyond solving problems by beating children on a sexual region of their body. Should i have called C.P.S., or maybe the police?
2007-07-30 05:00:03 · 26 answers · asked by FMEXICO 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Those of you who said spanking is still legal, what country do you live in? I live in the United States, and i am shocked to hear that child beating is still legal here! At least, it apears to be legal in Illinois, i'm sure there's no way it could be legal here in Minnesota where i live. Is spanking still legal in any other states besides Illinois? I did not grow up anywhere where spanking is illegal or isn't practiced. I was born in Minneosota back in 1962, and back in the 1960s and 1970s, spanking seemed to be quite common. I was never spanked, though, my parents were both anti-spanking activists. Until now, spanking seemed very rare nowadays, and i think ist is usually considered child abuse. I had no idea very many poeple in a civilized country such as the U.S. still beat their children.
2007-07-30 16:56:04 · update #1
I am a mandated reporter of abuse for the state of Illinois. And it is my job by lae to report any thing I deam abusive as far as children are concerned.
What's interesting is I do believe in spankings but I am againt child abuse and neglect. My rational is this... There is a huge difference between abuse and a spanking. I wouldnt bruise or seriously injure a child but I will hit them on the bottom or hand to show that there are consequenses to their actions. Time out to me is a crock and sometimes talking just doesnt work. Not all children respond to it. Just like all children respond to spankings. You have to decide what works for that child in the area of discipline.
Growing up if I thought I would get a spanking for something I wouldn't do it. So in my case it was effective. Kids today are completely out of control. And they need stern rearing.
I don't view the bottom as a sexual area and not all things about the body are related to sex but easily can be. You don't hit a child on anything sexually related... the anus is for release of waste from the body first. It's related to sex according to peoples prefernces last. Just like an earlobe or a sensitive area on the neck.
I don't think everyone is capable of properly chastising a child because of control issues. Some people over do it. But when it is all said and done...I don't want anyone telling me how to discipline my child as long as I am not doing anything to seriously harm them. A true discipline out of love spanking has never killed anyone.
2007-07-30 05:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by nappyhdfatgrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't call the police unless they are truly beating the kid. 10 times is still a bit much though, even if it doesn't quite constitute a "beating", and I don't think you need to humiliate the kid in front of everyone AND make everyone else around you feel really awkward. It's a private matter, so take the kid to a private place and give him a couple swats. I think you are overreacting saying that spanking is abuse and should be illegal. But it does sound like the lady went a little far. Just don't lump all spanking parents into that category. Some parents do reasonably spank, they don't all beat their kids or find it necessary to spank them ten times.
2015-06-15 10:44:02 · answer #2 · answered by Hannah 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Spanking (when done correctly) is not abuse so it would not be appropriate to call CPS. Most parents reserve spanking for home and don't do it in public because they fear they would be turned in for simply disciplining their children. However, I must say that the other day I saw a women spank a boy who looked about 11. I felt that was none of my business but then she hit him on the back of the head several times and he fell to the ground and curled up screaming and she kicked him repeatedly in the stomach. Needless to say, I turned her in but that was abuse not just a simple spanking.
2016-05-17 22:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta be kidding!!!!
First, the BUTT IS NOT A SEXUAL REGION!
Second, the BUTT is padded enough that you are not going to hurt someone by swatting them.
Third, spanking is not beating.
Fourth, I have swatted my children on a rare occasion. They understand that if they willfully disobey me, they will get a swat. Because of this understanding, that inapropriate behavior has consequences, they rarely misbehave, and I have spanked my 17 year old 3 times in her life, and my 14 year old 5.
As for this person you saw, I bet you exagerated the 10 times because you were shocked by it. If more people would publicly swat their kids, there would be less misbehavior because the child would not want the embarrasment. Of course people like you probably thought the embarassing things done in Abu Gahrib were torture, and feel that the misbehaving child suffered emotional distress...pathetic!
Finally, unless there is damage being done to the child (and a spanking does not constitute damage) MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!
Obvious...you are obviously out of your mind. It is pathetic to think that an occasional swat is teaching that hitting is good. The reality is that occasionally, a child needs to have the consequences outweigh the actions.
2007-07-30 05:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
i will spank my 5 year old in public if he is misbehaving. and since you didnt see what the boy did, then you dont know why he is getting a spanking. 10 times i think you are over doing it...but i actually had a lady follow me in the bathroom and ask me if i needed help. and i said no i dont need help spanking my son...she preceed to tell me that i could do other things other them spanking my son. and i told her she needs to mind her own business and my son will not act like your kids screaming throughout the store. maybe you need to try it. and i told her if she feel that i am a bad parent for spanking my son 3 times then she needs to call the police. but she didnt she followed me around the store thinking she was intimidating me and i continued to treat my son the way he was acting.....so i assume you have kids and they are very well behaved and dont do anything wrong? lol i could see if she was hitting him with a belt or an object or just didnt care where she was hitting him but come on the butt she spanked him............i wonder if you have kids that are perfect and you are the perfect parent to tell another parent how to raise there child..you gotta be an upper class person.
2007-07-30 05:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by $martA$$.com 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
thats not beating the kid!!!
and the butt is NOT a sexaul region.
spanking works fine as a form of displine, and if thats what the parents do, then why is it such a big deal to you? it has nothing to do with you - but if the parents starting beating him up, like punching him and stuff i could understand your point!
but 10 swats over clothes! thats not even a proper spanking!
Elinor xxx
2007-07-31 05:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How was the child hurt? My guess is that his naughty act that deserved the punishment won't occur again.
Had you called the police, you would have had the family seperated while they investigate. The children would have been sent to a strangers house in the foster care system. Every act the parets had committed since the day they turned 18 would have been investigated with the slant on them being abusive.
Thank you minding your own business and not destorying a family.
2007-07-30 05:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by JonB 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
While I think a smack across the face would have worked, you are wrong. Parents can discipline their children, and if it takes a punishment in public, so be it. This has nothing to do with "our society has moved beyound..." because alot of parents consider "taking away the xbox 360" a punishment and this reflects badly. Teach the kids early. And it was not "beating" a child.
2007-07-30 05:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by kurol 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You said spanking of a boy. That implies that his behind was spanked rather than a sexual region of his body. That is not abuse. In fact many parents still spank their children. It is proper punishment.
2007-07-30 05:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No -parents cant win in this situation, if they dont spank people like you say well she should have better control, why doesnt she have better control and on and on. but when she spanks and makes the child behave you automatically think about CPS. The child had pushed his Mom past her point - and he reaped the benefits of his actions. Good for her!
2007-07-30 05:10:15 · answer #10 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋