ok, Last night i went to church with one of my friends... Well there was this girl there that i have liked, for a while now, and she finally asked me out. OFC i said yes, BUT you see i am a girl, and well her parents didn't know that she was bisexual... But then last night i asked her at church if her parents knew, and she said no... THen after church at about 10 30 or so, i called her from my friends cell, and asked her what she was up to, and she told me that her parents are really mad at her because she told them about me and her.... They put the buble in her face, telling her how much of an "abomanation" being gay was..... She was pretty upset, but she still likes me. But i feel bad that her parents are mad at her.... What should i do?? I mean i dont know her parents, and i dont want her parents mad at me.... Any advice??
2007-07-30 04:29:29 · 21 answers · asked by A.C. 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
and by the way we are both 15
2007-07-30 04:41:00 · update #1
I cannot give you advice until I know how old you are.
2007-07-30 04:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's sad that her parents are that way. The bible says nothing about women being together but does say "judge not, lest ye be judged". There is not much you can do. This is between her and her parents. She has to decide what she is going to do-you can't help her with that or it will just back fire on you. Let her know you support her. And for you-be strong. Be on your best behavior. Keep a level head. The best way to convince someone you are not the enemy is to be friendly-even if they aren't. Be the better person! You will be respected by your girlfriend and, if you are lucky, her parents will notice too. Good luck!
2007-07-30 11:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by Macchiato Junkie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? well I can see why her parents are mad. religious people do not accept homosexuals or bisexuals and if they find out it is in there house they will get mad and try to break that. You know you should talk to your new girlfriend and ask her what she thinks. Remember that you are not going to change her parents minds so maybe try to work around it. Do your parents know? I think if they also go to church they will act the same way. Good luck in getting out of this pickle
2007-07-30 11:36:48 · answer #3 · answered by dudette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to let her handle the situation.
Many mainline and others still condemn homosexuality.
It is my belief that a gay person is born that way. If they are born that way, that's the way God made them. If God made them and they are good people I do not believe God would make a person be a certain way then condemn them for the way he made them.
That being said, And I know, most believe the Bible should be believed word for word as divine inspiration. Having re-read some of the anti homosexual writings in the new testament they 'feel' like someone opinion. Not divine nor inspirational.
Anyway that's my 2 ¢
2007-07-30 11:38:05 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO, be there for her as she struggles with her parents. Right now the only way they'll be happy is if she's never with another girl again. It may not be right for them to ask that of her, but I never said they were good people worthy of being appeased. I'd suggest helping her find a spiritual counselor for her parents that is more open-minded and can help them learn to accept their daughter's sexuality. Groups like PFLAG might be of help too. Good luck.
2007-07-30 14:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look its ok because all girls are bisexual. I mean if you like another girl and have sex with her then your gay right no because if you ever use a dildo then you are bisexual you need an object or penatration then you bi.
Go for it parents are parents you can never change there minds and today there are tons of freaks out there
2007-07-30 11:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by earl_emily 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be a friend and give her time and space you dont want here parents more upset she needs to work it out with them.. the fact that they did not know before then makes it tuff on you .. they could see you as a part of the "problem" tothem// FYI I dont think its problem but take things slow
2007-07-30 11:33:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do know that church is probably not the best place for all of this to be taking place. what you do in your life is your business, however, church?
2007-07-30 11:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice is its not about what makes her parents happy its about what makes her happy.. i am not gay, but there is nothing wrong with it.... her parents obvioulsy are judgemental.. as in them not hating you, there really isnt anything u can do, just be nice and respectful to them... but good luck with this.. hope i helped
2007-07-30 11:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by ~browneyedgrl~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one you have to let her deal with her family herself...But you definitely have to be there for her no matter what happens...Then eventually when her family accepts it you could possibly meet them. Key word Possibly...LOL.
Best of Luck!
2007-07-30 11:43:11 · answer #10 · answered by Mama Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋