What...is it because the people and wemen get jealous?
2007-07-30 04:05:05 · 13 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
omg well 4 one thing swiming shouldnt ruin a relationship.swimming is ur hobby and ur partener should except that
2007-07-30 04:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by critter l 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Close, Flavio....very, very close.
No couple should even consider it unless the relationship is rock-solid. If there are ANY feelings of jealousy, negative self-image or performance anxiety, that's a big red flag.
And jealousy can occur for either partner; not just the woman.
Again, swinging should be a mutual decision without any "arm twisting." And it should never, ever be done with the idea that it's going to "fix" something in the relationship.
2007-07-30 20:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by John Doe 1st 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty much the same thing as when your partner cheats. Except its right in front of you. You will have doubts about your ability to please your spouse. You will ask yourself if your spouse liked it better with the other person rather than you. You won't believe what your spouse says because you will notice the small stuff. Like how long it takes for them to climax with you and in turn with the other person. The noise your spouse makes with you and the noises they make with the other. The mood they are in after the fact and how they go about the situation. Rather they enjoyed it or they thought it was terrible and they only want to be intimate with you. Alot of things can make this situation go sour. I would sugest that you not try it. You made a commitment to be with one person and it should stay that way. I really can't see how a realtionship can last with 3 people. Hope I help you out.
2007-07-30 11:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by desaun08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Several reasons:
1. Jealousy. You got that one right!
2. Sends mixed signals to any children involved, possibly promoting sexual promiscuity that can result in a teen becoming pregnant or contracting a disease.
3. Potentially could bring a disease into the home.
4. Statistics show that many women who get involved with swinging only do it because their husband coerces them and they are afraid to lose their relationship. Ultimately this results in resentment, and eventually a bad break up. Thus, swinging is often a sign of an abusive husband/boyfriend.
2007-07-30 11:10:20 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If my hubby brought the issue of swinging up, I would question the entire basis of our relationship and loose trust in him. To be willing even in thought to bring others into such an intimate part of our lives would cause me to rethink my committment to him. Does anyone want thier mate to do that? Let misgivings and distrust enter thier lives? When a seed is planted it has a tendency to grow.
2007-07-30 12:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by Praire Crone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've been together since 1996, married since 1999, swinging since 2002. Three or four times a year we'll get together with another couple and swap off. It is fun. It works for us. Everybody finishes the day happy.
2007-07-30 11:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Swinging doesn't ruin a relationship. PEOPLE do.
2007-07-30 11:54:31 · answer #7 · answered by Curry 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know...I have heard that it is usually the mans idea to start swinging and the woman does it reluctantly. After some time...the woman really starts to enjoy herself and the man can't handle that...so then he wants to stop swinging...GO FIGURE!
2007-07-30 11:13:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh stop spelling women incorrectly, it's annoying.
not just women get jealous. and it's not really about jealousy that makes it not work in a committed monogamous relationship anyway, it's acting on shallow neandrathal desires instead of giving yourself to someone completely.
2007-07-30 11:11:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
it creates trust issues. Are they doing it while you are not around? Is it okay all the time? He might fall for someone else suddenly given the opportunity ect...
2007-07-30 11:10:56 · answer #10 · answered by budlightdonkey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋