If one could fall in love, is it possible to voluntarily fall out of love?

Question

..how?..

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Answer 1

Remove yourself from him...find new friends, get a new hobby...start dating again. You never get COMPLETELY over some relationships...but it gets easier

Answer 2

Of course. By consciously deciding to.

I wrote this out a few months ago because I grew tired of people asking what love is, and also because I eventually grew tired of them pretending it was some big mystery and romanticizing it. As you can see, since you decide what love is at any time, then all you have to do is change your definition of it so that the person you love no longer fits it, or change how you view that person so that they longer fit your present definition of love.

Here's my definition of love:

"Love" isn't a single emotion, it's a meshing of two or more emotions of varying degrees, put together in different combinations by each individual, which change from moment to moment throughout their lifetimes. This definition covers all types of love, not just "perfect" or "true" love.

Each person decides throughout their lifetime at any moment what love is to them whether it is on a conscious level or not; what combination of emotions they should be feeling, how strongly they need to be feeling each of them and how important each of them is. This is why people fall in love with strangers or those they barely know, because those types of people are basically blank slates whom we can convince ourselves meet our criteria. It's also why we become brokenhearted later (which is almost inevitable) when we get to know them through a closer relationship and discover that they didn't meet our criteria after all, if that ends up being the case.

As a person ages and experiences different things, then their views also change, sometimes slightly and sometimes drastically. So what they attribute as love changes, too. This is why people fall out of love with others, or why their love will develop or grow stronger.

Since we each decide which combination of emotions at any time come together to be love, then it is us that chooses love and not the other way around. You aren't made to fall in love with a certain person, you've chosen to, whether it's a conscious choice or not. We are also each responsible for any "destructive" love we may feel if we include emotions such as jealousy and anger into the combination.

There are all kinds of love and infatuation is one of them. It's more commonly known as "puppy love". People tend to discriminate against it and belittle it because it doesn't fall into the category of what they consider to be "true love" or "perfect love", but it is love nonetheless. The thing about the love known as infatuation is that it tends to be an obsessive and very passionate kind of love, so the one possessing it views the person they are infatuated with through very narrow blinders and the fire of the love burns bright and fast, and in turn dies just as quickly and thoroughly.

Answer 3

I don't think you "voluntarily" fall out of love - there are a series of events that cause on to fall in & out of love. There isn't anything voluntary about it.

Answer 4

You fall in love, involuntarily and you fall out of love involuntarily.

You cannot control those feelings and emotions, your heart beating faster and your palms sweating and your whole body aching…

But you can control your actions.

Being in love is so wonderful that the only way you would want to fall out of it would be if it’s a forbidden love.

Then, the best way is to get away from the person you’re attracted to…or let them get away from you.

You will experience love withdrawal symptoms (insomnia, loss of appetite, extreme horniness, depression…) but after a while, time will pass and heal you.

Answer 5

I don't think that you can voluntarily fall out of love... That's really on you, you can't just say I feeling like loving you oh but then I don't...Love is really weird and sometimes really complicated...hope this helps...lisa

Answer 6

your question is juxtaposed that you can choose to fall in love, you can choose potential mates.... but the timing of love is not usually our choosing.

as far as voluntarily falling out of love sure... you can choose what you think/dwell on and over time you will fall out. you are not allowing the mind an opportunity to create and nurture the synapses that create the emotion of love.

Answer 7

people just grow apart sometimes.. less stuff in common, differences on politics or issues, different parenting styles, etc. It's not always because someone looks... Communication is a key to a happy relationship so you always know that the other wants and expects. Good Luck .. Hope that answered your question. that is usually involuntary...


voluntary would be when you are fed up with getting no respect and dumping a loser...

Answer 8

NO, it is not possible to voluntarily fall out of love.

Thanks
http://www.fotgr.org

Viji Alexander, Saudi Arabia.

Answer 9

I'll tell you how......when you fall in love with someone who you trusted, and then they do something to betray you and have lied to you, and even after they were caught, they still denied it and continued to lie to you.......THAT is how you voluntarily fall OUT of love!

Answer 10

Well people change, I know form experience that you can fall in love, because you and your partner are so compatible, then a couple months or so after you feel like you have that connection, your partner starts to show their true colors. So, yes it is possible.

Answer 11

I am not sure if falling out of love is voluntary or involuntary. Sometimes things like that just happen! The spark just isn't there any longer! Then it is time to call it Quits!