This was really the only snafu in an otherwise amazing relationship, but it's kind of a big one. He was incredibly remorseful and apologetic, and I know that if we both want this relationship to work, we should be able to get through anything, but it still hurts. I'm not sure exactly what it means though, I mean, we were IN BED. Naked. Together. I don't have to paint a picture, right? I'm just don't know what it means...Help!
2007-07-30 01:38:02 · 25 answers · asked by Divine Miss E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just means he made a mistake once if it happens more id be concerned . creature of habit.
2007-07-30 01:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by freeflow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While in the throws of passion guys often drop into the standard operating procedure. It kind of goes with blurting out the "I love you" phrase with a one nighter.
Given some more time a recurrence might be disturbing but you may take some solace in knowing that you were able to get to his deepest level where his love and relationships lie.
Any ex wife takes some time to forget erspecially at that level.
If that were not true there could not have been much connection there in the first place.
2007-07-30 09:22:40 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOPS! sounds like he made a mistake don't make him suffer for such a little mistake. Truth is he lived everyday with a person over a extended period of time, sure it hurts but it was an accident and probably not intended. I'm a guy and I have made that mistake before, it just happened I never meant to do it on purpose. I also was not thinking about my ex-wife either, it just slipped out.
2007-07-30 08:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
WEll...was it at the moment of truth? You know, right when he was at the height of the thing?
Even if it was then I'm not sure it means anything.
I'm a woman, and I have done this to several people, though not in bed, at other times while talking. I have no idea why my brain reverts to another person's name at times, it's a nasty problem. It's happened maybe three times to me in 20 years or so. I just accidentally call the person I am with someone from my recent past. It's embarrassing, but I wouldn't make a big deal out of it.
If he still thinks about his ex, you will know because of the way he talks about her. This one thing is not proof one way or another about how he feels about her. If he is still in love with her, you would know already by his facial expressions and tone of voice when talking about her.
2007-07-30 08:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im curious how long you have been together? Sometimes that has alot to do with it. Or you know if your married to someone for a period of time its like riding a bike when you say your name. I actually did that once, it was compleatly accidental. I wasnt thinking of my ex or anything of the sort. I was just so acostom to saying his name it just came out. I really wouldnt take it personal.
It just happens sometimes. Im sure he feels imbarresed & compassionate about hurting you. I would just get it all out, let him know how you feel, & drop it. If it kept happening then there may be a problem. Good luck & God Bless.
2007-07-30 08:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by tokimo t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one is perfect.... It has happened to me. Yes it did hurt, but the way he showed me that he was sorry for his mistaken words, was GREAT. Is this the only time it has happened? The mind is a wonderful thing. Thousands of ideas constantly working. So remember, what if you said it by mistake? How would he feel? If you love him, forgive and move on. Don't consintrate on the bad, life is to short.
2007-07-30 12:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by MonkeyMayDay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your judgement should not be very fast in this case.
Firstly if you are recently married it can be a unconscious slip of tongue. Secondly (definitely) it takes time to forget your first love. You should Analise the things and situations before coming to any conclusion.
If you can send me more details about your relation I can help you in a better and more elaborated manner. In formations like--- Time he parted from his first wife, Time you had been to gather before marring each other, How much you understand each other and of course the situations when it happens frequently(I don't want you to paint a picture but I want brief description)
I hope your decisions will not be very quick!!!
Best of luck
2007-07-30 08:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by cool_guy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have often called my Thai wife by my late English wife's name. My English wife and I were married for 2 months short of 37 years at her death. My Thai wife, who was a good friend of my English wife, totally understands that 37 years is a long time and you can't switch this out of your life in 5 minutes. It means nothing other than he was comfortable with you and it reminded him of previous times when he had been comfortable with his previous wife.
2007-07-30 08:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by Tony A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long ago were they divorced? If it's fairly recent, then it may be just a slip of the tongue and you should forgive. If it's been quite a while, then I would worry. He may not be over her. He can't take it back now, and it sounds like he wishes he could. If it happens again, then I would wonder why.
2007-07-30 08:44:30 · answer #9 · answered by Linda K 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
hmmm...how long ago were they divorced? this is a toughy...I guess this is part of why God told us to only get married once...because then you have all of these "after problems". I was called by the name of an ex once years ago...and I know he was thinking about her...and I think he called me this to see what I would say, also...so, that is not good! if it happens again, I would worry...
2007-07-30 08:53:45 · answer #10 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's still on his mind. It's hard to get thoughts about the ex out of one's mind, particularly if there are kids involved or if it was a painful divorce. She was probably in his life longer than you, so he'll need to be around you longer than his ex to get into the right habit.
2007-07-30 08:47:17 · answer #11 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋