I am trying to deal with the fact that I am gay. I don't know what to do. It's something that I have been fighting since I was a little girl. I don't want to come out to anyone because I am so scared that I will end up alone and potentially break my families heart.
That Dr. Whatever girl makes me feel like that is probably the way my family will treat me and that scares the ever loving crap out of me. I don't know what to do and I am so torn. It's easier to love a guy and have a family, but I am more attracted to women. Why is this so hard and why can't I embrace it?
2007-07-30 01:35:22 · 12 answers · asked by Jules 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
if you ignore these feelings you'll never be happy. believe me i fought it for YEARS and found myself seeking a women after leaving my family because i could never be completely satisfied with a man. now i wish i would have followed my heart much earlier in life. good luck, people who truly love you will still love you they may not like what you do but true friends and family will always be there for you.
2007-07-30 02:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by star lights 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
ok, this is a problem of self acceptance that i also have as iam gay too. i still havent told my family that im gay and i am scared of telling them. but just believe in them.they have been there all your life and if you think gathering them on the sofa and syaing it, then go for it but consider the idea of being biexual but aslo if you dont want to then dont put a label on your sexuality yet until your truly believe that you are what you are.but maybe the best idea of telling your family is, when you get a girlfriend or a boyfriend then say to them 'hey everyone this is my boyfriend/girlfriend' and explain to them what you are.this it what i plan to do in the future i hope it works for you.
2007-07-30 11:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I stayed in the closet for 41 years. I had the same fears as you. My family did choose to just ignore me. But to be honest, I've never been happier. I have a great BF and I'm living a life where I'm being true to ME. That's the most important. Live your life for YOU. They can't live you life for you, only you can do that. Being gay is neither good or bad, it's just what you are. Just accept yourself for the wonderful person that you are. The only person who can make you happy is yourself.
2007-07-30 10:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by ron s 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
dear jules,
i would said,
BE STRONG!
it is really not that easy to be gay/lesbian, especially for good people like you, that care bout other feeling... because u always scare that u'll hurt other for your own good... that y ppl living in the closet...
u can either choose to tell all that around you once... and loudly... that u HOMO! this will bring u the immediate problem and change to ur life... that will either turn good, as people around might understand and support you, or DISASTER, u know what i mean...
or don't talk, show ur self, let them found out themselves, and over time accept u as what u are... this is most LGBT people do... as it is more safe and steady...
its really depend on you, if you got the guts, do the 1st 1!
else the later one is also not bad...
hope it help, cheer~
2007-07-30 12:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by Kordal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is very hard at first. u may feel better already, having told us. but u have 2 accept yourself b4 anyone else will accept u. yes, living a heterosexual life would b easier and more widely accepted. but u could never b happy in a hetero relationship if u truely r gay. it took me a good 6 months 2 accept it myself...now im happier than ever!!!
2007-07-30 10:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by rocker_chick 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Gal....Look.. Dun listen to the whoever name called the Dr whatever... She's talking crap.. Listen to yourself, understand what you really want.... I know is a bit hard for you now...but all of it will be over when you will able to accept who you are... Coming out is a difficult... i know.. how you feel... i feel the same way too... it need lots of courage to do it... For me, i still haven't got that courage to come out to my family... as i same as you are scared that these kind of things that may happened.. When you feel you are ready, just do it...
2007-07-30 09:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, don't let other peoples opinions cloud your judgement. There is still quite a bit of ignorance and homophobia flying around, but as time progresses we are living and a more and more modern world with each day that passes. Do you have any insight on your parents views on being gay? Go on that, not what somebody else says.
Eventually, you have to look at it this way. They are going to find out one way or another and waiting to tell them isn't going to solve any of your problems. More times than not, parents love their children unconditionally and sexual orientation doesn't even matter.
2007-07-30 08:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by Karma Police 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Just keep trying to fight it, and seek for the great and positive things in males, particularly your father or grandfather.
Often troubles lead back to that relationship.
NOTHING connected with gayism or transsexuality can possibly be NORMAL!
ALL, IN FACT, IS DIAMETRICALLY OPPOSED TO NATURE AND GOD'S WILL.
Just at present, He suffers it .... but only until ye have all ripened in sin and iniquity.
Then it shall come God's Great and terrible Judgment upon you - then shall it all become so terrible for you that ye would feign command that the rocks should fall down upon you and hide yourselves from before God's face!! ... and the terror of His terrible judgment upon you and the devastation of the wages of him whom ye serve - the devil.
2007-07-30 08:52:18 · answer #8 · answered by dr c 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Dr. Whatever is a troll. Only you can make this decision.
2007-07-30 08:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
self-acceptance is very important, you have to learn to love and accept yourself for who you are =) don't let anyone make you feel down about it, as they only need your permission to make you feel less superior.
2007-07-30 08:39:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋