I feel so guilty; I had met her at an engagement party; we had such a time & one thing lead to another. This morning when I departed my train, I happened to sit opposite the woman. We both looked each other in the eye & swapped semi-smiles. During the journey our eyes met various times , I am a male & I feel guilty for not speaking to her. She must have felt this too, do you think I should have made the effort to start a conversation. I feel as if she thinks I used and abused her whereas I am beating myself over it just now.
As a woman or a man how would you have felt in my situation, if you are a woman, perhaps you can tell me how she may have felt?
2007-07-30 01:21:41 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Too late now! Forget about it!
2007-07-30 01:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by Love to Answer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow what an awkaward thing to have done, I mean in that situation you think it might be too embarrassing to start a conversation and the only thing you had in common about that party was the fact it ended up in sex. So yes if you remembered each other then fine, sometimes the body language of smiling and acknowledging each other is okay on these terms. Do you have her number or something, maybe she could end up a good friend.
2007-07-30 01:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by a beautiful lie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you have nothing to feel guilty about. as a woman, i think the half-smiles she gave you was a sign that she obviously remembered and enjoyed the night but it was something that should stay in the past. I think you would have got a definite mesage (verbal or otherwise) if she was unhappy with your behavior. if anything, she was probably picking up that you were feeling uncomfortable.
2007-07-30 01:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by isildurs_babe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have felt just as awkward. Really what can you say. If you know it was going to be a one night stand and still feel that it was then I wouldn't worry about it. I mean really what can you say. But what I want to know is why are you still thinking of it was it that good? And did you want more from it? In that case you should of said something.
2007-07-30 01:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by youcandoit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman and I am sure she would have liked for you to make idle chit chat with her. She probably felt used after that. She is probably very mad at herself for giving herself to you. That is my own opinion anyway. She also could have felt that you had too much to drink and you did something you didn't want to. If you ever run into her again you should at least speak to her. I would have wanted to be acknowledged with a hello how are you? But its over and thats that.
2007-07-30 01:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by Maria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you both had casual sex you can treat her as a casual person. just say hello ask how she's doing. you don't have to get personal and you don't have to become best friends (unless you want too). she participated in the sex and knew as much as you did when it happened. you both used each other to let off some sexual steam. don't feel guilty about that.
2007-07-30 01:28:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you one of many that weekend and she was thinking I know this guy from somewhere.
Maybe your staring was creeping her out and she was wondering if you were going to mug her.
Maybe you sucked in bed and she was thinking God I hope this guy doesn't remember me and want to talk.
Maybe she really liked you and was hoping you would make the first move to say something and you didn't now she feels horrible.
2007-07-30 01:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man you should start the conversation. As a woman ofcors I'll let the man make the first move.
2007-07-30 01:25:39 · answer #8 · answered by Lonely girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have talked to her. If it was understood by both, what your encounter was, be friendly and talked to her. Heck! You spent the night together!
If she expected more, like a call the next day or an other date and you let her believe that, you definitely should have talked to her to apologize.
2007-07-30 01:30:46 · answer #9 · answered by Staveros 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its the one night stand you feel guilty about - learn from it and dont do it again (she no doubt will have learnt the same lesson.)
however, as the saying goes it takes two to tango, she too was involved in the one night stand so you shouldn't have to feel any gultier than her.
2007-07-30 08:53:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't worry to much, you both exchanged smiles so no hard feelings there! it was just a one night stand, if it was such a good night for you perhaps you should have given her your number, if you bump into her again, give it to her!!!
2007-07-30 02:12:27 · answer #11 · answered by Just passing the time! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋