My sister's husband tells me of his sexual escapades. he takes me to see his girlfriend and is even planning to marry the lady and send her to another country to live. presently, the lady is pregnant. my sister has four kids for him and they have a very lovable home.
what do i do? should i tell my sister about her husband's escapades or keep mute? if i keep mute, guilty conscience will continue to prick me and it will be very bad if my sister discovers that i know something about this.
they have being married for 10 years now. kindly advise!!!
2007-07-30 01:16:56 · 10 answers · asked by Inexorable 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you deffinatly need to tell your sister
i know your keeping this from her because you don't want to see her hurt
it might hurt, but she needs someone that respects her
this man is a loser
the longer you wait the worse it will be. she will find out sooner or later better sooner
2007-07-30 01:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by justmeandcaring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness I can't believe that you even have to ask about this!!!!!! Don't you have any loyalty at all to your own sister? Her husband is nothing to you! Tell your sister immediately what has been going on AND be there for her to help her get through whatever she decides to do. Keep in mind though, your sister is going to ask you why you didn't tell her immediately like you should have - you'll have to think about why you didn't tell her when you first fround out. She has a right to know what her husband has been doing - especially since he has gotten another woman pregnant and plans on marrying her!
2007-07-30 08:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by Be me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister. You need to prepare her for the worst. What I don't understand is why he takes you to see his GF you and him must have a close relationship for him to trust you with something like that. Blood is thicker than water and at the end your sister will be left to deal with everything. Tell her before she finds out you already knew and will probably end up hating you.
2007-07-30 08:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by MZ. Latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, this just sounds too bizarre to be real.
But if it is...... she probably already knows some of it but is in denial. I can't figure out why in the hell he would tell you unless he is doing it so you tell her & he won't have to do it. I would suggest you tell your parents what is going on and you all confront him and tell him to deal with it. When your sister finds out, be there for her 100%. If she asks why you didn't tell her, let her know that you pushed the jerk into facing things with her and that it wasn't your place to tell her.
2007-07-30 08:22:51 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How come your brother-in-law share his secrets with you? could it be because you've been one of his escapades?
Yes you have to tell your sister...would you like her to hide such a secret from you? She is your blood, this is more important then anything else.
2007-07-30 08:21:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister. Why didn’t you tell her in the first place?? I cant believe he has put you in that situation. Knowing you would tell your sister because he is 2 much of a coward to tell her him self. She is better of with out him.
2007-07-30 08:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by nicknak88 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You must tell her yes it will hurt but your loyaltys have to be with your sister not this loser! your sister deserves better then this sooner its out in the open the better!
2007-07-30 08:21:16 · answer #7 · answered by sophia1987 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why are you allowing this guy to use you to justify his horrendous behavior. I don't usually advise this, but tell him to tell your sister or you will. Give him 24hours.
2007-07-30 08:30:20 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her!!!!!!!!!!!
what if he brings home some disease to your sister?
and some diseases could be spread to the children. like herpes. if you don't say anything then you SHOULD live with a guilty conscience.
2007-07-30 08:22:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he take you to see his girlfriends? Are you sleeping with him too.
2007-07-30 08:20:31 · answer #10 · answered by cocoprecious 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋