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Now-a-days certain family stands purely on sexual and material relationship. Is there anything beyond that.

2007-07-30 00:44:31 · 7 answers · asked by BLOWHOT 3 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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Well, you should consider that in the past, many families were glued together, because the wife didn't have a work and had to keep an eye on the household. And that was sometimes also without love.

Nowadays women got emancipated, so they don't need anymore that fake relationship to survive, and can make their way alone.

But now, we still have some couples that live together for an advantage. Did it really change ? I'm not sure, just the reason is different.
And the value of family-relationship is created by the family itself.

2007-07-30 00:49:35 · answer #1 · answered by Damokles 2 · 0 0

well, if you're talking about family as in couples having babies and all that jazz, then i guess it's not that purely sexual. only a part of it. i think the basic value of building a family is a sense of belongingness. when you are ready to leave from your family circle, you tend to create your own family, creating a new circle of belongingness. afterwards, you incorporate all the values, beliefs and traditions you've uphold from your family to the one you've made. =)

2007-07-30 00:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by the lioness 4 · 0 0

my family has never had much in the way of money or material things but i think im happier than other people who get what they want when they want it i have learned that life is better when you have a house full of people who care about you and want to spend time with you than having a huge house and everything you want to make up for not spending time with you

2007-07-30 00:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by cginsanity 2 · 0 0

It is the foundation on which all other relationships are built. If you can't get along with your own, how can you get along with others who are strangers?

2007-07-30 00:49:00 · answer #4 · answered by WC 7 · 0 0

I wish I could say that there is something better than that but, unfortunately it seems to be getting worst.

2007-07-30 00:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by Peace 3 · 0 0

A place to call home.

2013-12-19 01:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by Ann 7 · 0 0

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2014-08-18 18:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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