She divorced last year and was happy for a little while but is unhappy again. She lives with her 16 or 17 year old daughter. Her ex husband lives with her son. She has a lot of problems in her life right now.
2007-07-30 00:42:08 · 12 answers · asked by Michelle Y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is what I call Post Divorce Stress Syndrome. The crash after the happy. When a person divorces it is like a death. There are all kinds of emotions to be dealt with. Raising two teenage girls by yourself is not easy. Being alone is not easy, and being the sole support is not easy. For those of us that have been through it, and are going through it, what she feels is perfectly normal. It helps to have friends to talk to, and sometimes a counselor. Keep reminding her of all the possibilities in her life, take her out to dinner, keep her spirits up and make her laugh. Just be a good friend, this too shall pass, it just takes time.
2007-07-30 01:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lee B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most woman are jubilant after their divorce and for many it is short lived. The freedom is great for a while then the grieving starts. As with losing someone you have to grieve a relationship too. If she is having problems too this won't be helping as before she would have a partner to support her through these problems but now she must tackle it on her her own. Which can seem very daunting.
Be a good that you are a make sure she knows you are there for her.
It will get better. just takes time.
good luck to her and you.
2007-07-30 07:47:47 · answer #2 · answered by angelrose0105 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably realizes they should have worke harder to keep the marriage together through the bad times. A lot of people who get divorced do not exhaust all possible solutions. Rather than work harder at it, they just call it quites. Give someone a year of laying in bed by themself, where the partner "used to be", and some past decisions don't look as good as they once did. Maybe she should give it another chance.
2007-07-30 12:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Independence comes with a price. Maybe she is a little unsatisfied with all of the changes she has to deal with now that she is a single mom. But I bet that she would keep it this way then go back to an unhappy marriage. Just support her and let her know that she has a friend that cares for her.
2007-07-30 07:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by orcarius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has a lot of problems in her life right now, that probably explains why she is not happy at this point in her life. It's always difficult to deal with stress and problems and even more so when you are dealing with them alone.
Be the type of friend you would want her to be if you were in her shoes. Be supportive and let her know you are there if she needs you.
This too shall pass!
2007-07-30 07:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce does not magically take all the pain away. The memories along with the day to day problems of life are still there. Now she has to deal with them without anyone to help. Bring some yummy low fat icecream and soda or wine and play cards, watch movies (no romance or adultery please) or whatever at her place some night that is good for her. It's sure to make her feel comforted at least a little. Thanks for being such a good friend. :-)
2007-07-30 10:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is an unhappy person in general. Being married or divorced doesn't have anything to do with it. She needs to get to root of her problems through counseling or meditation.
One has to let go of the things in their life that are making them unhappy and learn to love themselves for who they are.
2007-07-30 07:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i guess that answers the question to why she is unhappy..the problems in her life.
plus a divorce will leave you scarred.it like coming out of a war..
your friend will be fine,time will take care of her,you just be supportive.OK?
2007-07-30 07:46:09 · answer #8 · answered by 9k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is unhappy because she has never moved on in her life. Divorce hurts! We ALL know that, and it hurts for a long time, but at some point you have to just leave it behind, and move on! I wish her luck!!
2007-07-30 08:14:23 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You answered your own question. Divorce for whatever reasons is emotionally and physically tramatic. This is one reason why one should think long and hard before marrying anyone.
2007-07-30 07:46:18 · answer #10 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋