Hi
I am 28 and married and I have one daughter 1 year old.
I got early married due to family pressure in my25.
My wife is average looking women, before the bith of my daughter we had good body relation but after pregnancy she has lost her shape and I lost my interest in her. mean while I get involed with another girl who is just 22 and prety gorgeous and sexy. she loves me truley knowing everything about me. we had date many times and i m emotionaly attached to her. Now I feel myself very guilty as if I am cheating my wife.
Moreover sometime(or rather many times) I felt my wife is not loving me but I don't want to cross marriage limit every time.
I told my GF leave me since I can't give any commitment to her but she is telling "don't leave me I don't expect any commitment from you"
Please help me what to do?
2007-07-30 00:27:04 · 19 answers · asked by rahul 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your wife may now have lost her good body, but you have gained from that a little girl who will love and cherish you forever!
I think it is a fair trade and that you should love your wife even more for this wonderful gift..
I know that these things happen, but consider what you will loose if you are found out???
Right now your GF is saying she does not want commitment..maybe so, but in the future she will want it you can bet on it!
You are feeling guilty, that means your heart already knows this is wrong, and obviously you are not so "out of love" with your wife as you think, why else would you care?
Soul search, quickly before you loos your wife and daughter!
2007-07-30 00:36:02 · answer #1 · answered by *Lee*D* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to get rid of this girl on the side and take those efforts you are giving her and give them back to your wife! That's what I think! You vowed to be there for her "for better or worse" and that includes her different body after birth of your child! Did anyone hold a gun to your head to marry her? I don't think they did...you made a choice to marry, do the right thing and work on your marraige. Good Luck! If you choose the girl who is 22, when she has a child...are you going to find someone else w/ a better body again? Sigh...You feel guilty for cheating your wife because you are cheating your wife...=(...I like the "leave them both answer" lol...but, really...work things out w/ your wife...=(...
2007-07-30 07:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are cheating....and it is wrong no matter what you say about being "pressured" into marriage.
You loved your wife once...remember? Suddenly, after you meet this "girlfriend" you can find excuses to not be happy with your marriage.
Maybe your wife has gained weight due to depression. Perhaps she knows what you are doing. If you are spending that much time with this other woman...your wife knows.
Also, why would you want this other woman who obviously has no morals and is willing to carry on with a married man. Any woman with sense knows a married man is OFF LIMITS.
Maybe if you spent as much time working on your marriage as you do cheating, you would find you still love your wife.
Leave the other woman and pray that your wife will forgive you.
2007-07-30 07:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember you took vows...for better for worse...sickness and in health. If you truly didn't mean them...then you shouldn't have gotten married. I'll tell you divorce isn't cheap and neither is child support...or possibly alimony. If you look at your parents...do you think they look like they did when they got married? If your wife gained weight ask her to go for a walk with you every night and push the baby in a stroller. It will help her to loose weight. If things are going bad...adding someone never makes the situation better. It is always better to get a divorce while you are civil and then start over...then to add someone while you are married. I guarantee if she finds out...she won't be a happy camper and your divorce will not be civil. If that is what it comes to. I think you should try to work things out with your wife...your friend..the one you made a commitment with for life. No matter what you are going to have to see her for the kid.
2007-07-30 07:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you come home one day and find some other guy treating your wife the way she deserves to be treated – like a real women. Do your wife a favor and leave her so she can find someone to appreciate her, unlike you. Wait until she finds out and kicks you out, then you'll be crawling back like a little baby. Serves you right for cheating on her.
2007-07-30 12:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way are you serious leaving your wife because she is getting fat ,tell her to go on diet show her that you are int rested in her life with your kid.DO NOT THINK YOU ARE CHEATING AS YOU ARE CHEATING telling that the other woman is your girlfriend this is called cheating .yes of course your girlfriend will tell you she needs no commitment until the time you yourself will no longer bare your wife by yourself and divorce her willingly without any effort from her to convince you.
the poor wife deserves to be happy and deserves to have a man for herself a faithful one,do not run from her as she herself surely is not happy about gaining weight for you to have a baby we all gain weight in pregnancy ,either you cut it off with her or work on her looks to attract you ,plz do not give any excuses about your family forcing you into marriage this is not her fault and not your kid s fault.your girlfriend is fooling you no body ever want a no future relationship. DROP THE LIAR AND SPEND MORE TIME FOCUSING ON YOUR WIFE S LIFE IN ORDER TO GET WHAT YOU WANT.
2007-07-30 07:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by mony y 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in a situation like this but I was the other guy and she had a kid with a boyfriend and I loved her and she told me she loved me but in the end she choose to stay with him.
If your not happy with your wife,you should just divorce her and even though the other girl was wrong for messing with a married man U shouldnt tell her your deep feelings.Cause if you choose to stay with your wife she will hate you.
I belive once you tell someone You Love Them then you belong to them emotionally so if you choose to stay with your wife you have now cheated on the other woman also.
Next time be sure you dont care about your wife before you cheat.
2007-07-30 07:39:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Thats an easy one to solve. Get your girlfriend pregnant and after she has had your baby she will also lose shape. You wont be interested in her anymore and then you can dump her and then find yourself another sexy 22 year old, infact make it a 19 year old this time and then do the same.
Thats a winner! Dont you think so?
2007-07-30 07:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normally i would tell you to not cheat on your wife...
But well, way i see it your screwed no matter what you do now.
You leave the girlfriend, chances are she'll get pissed and tell your wife, and then your wife will leave you.
You stay with the girlfriend, chances are your wife will eventually catch on to what your doing and leave you.
You stay with the girlfriend, she will eventually want more, at which point your going to have to choose between your wife and girlfriend. Now if you choose your wife, the girlfriend tells your wife and they both will probably dump you. Or you just choose the girlfriend and leave your wife.
Looks to me like your getting it from two women right now, might as well enjoy the ride till it's over... Cause in the end your gonna be screwed and not in the good way.
2007-07-30 07:45:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
one you should never get married b/c of family pressure but its to late for that now and when you did get married you made a commitment to your wife that you would love her till death do you part it never said unless you have my child and lose your figure, it doesn't matter how much you think you love the other girl or how much you think she loves you, you made a promise to your wife and you should keep that promise no matter what and maybe you just need to remember what made you love her to begin with
2007-07-30 07:37:02 · answer #10 · answered by cginsanity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋