my mom is pregnant?

Question

i'm 13,
and i'm an only child.
my mom and dad arn't together but i have a step dad.
i don't ever see my dad anymore.
and well my mom recently told me she's pregnant and i'm not happy at all.
i'm so upset you have no idea.
i knw i should be happy but i'm not the least bit happy.
please help?

i really don't want to share my mom.
everything will be so different.
and she knew that i didn't wan ta brother or sister at all.
and she was laughing when i was told that she was pregnant.

Answer 1

You don't have to like that fact that your mom is having another baby, but at the end of the day you are always going to be her first born child and that is something extra special.

Think about all the fun things that you are going to be able to do for this baby as it grows up. Your mom and stepdad obviously love each other and you very much to want to have another child. Tell you mom how you feel and if you think she is going overboard on baby stuff, tell her. Just say 'mom can you stop thinking about the baby and just talk to me for a few minutes, I really miss you/want to talk to you/love you.'
I can quarantee that she will always stop and listen to you. She will love you no matter what.
Just tell her what you're thinking, never bottle it up.

Good Luck and have fun being a big sister. I have one that is a lot older than me and we are best friends now and I wouldn't change it for the world.

Answer 2

You know what I totally understand your feelings on this. You are 13 and an only child, would probably prefer for life to stay the same with no big changes like this. However life doesnt just stay the same no matter what.Look in just 5 short years you are going to be leaving for college-then your Mom would not have any child to take care of- so if she chooses to have another one cant you see that maybe that is exactly what she wanted.
A new baby sister or brother can be fun you know. They are so little and sweet. And as they grow they will look up to you -you will be their wonderful big sister, the one that plays with them.
You are growing up and dont need Mom's constant attention anymore. Perhaps your Mom always wanted another child but because your parents divorced she couldnt have one. And do you know why she would want another child? Because she is so-o pleased with the one she already has-you!!

Answer 3

I'm sorry you are so unhappy, but really, stop and think a minute. You have a roof over your head, food to eat, clothes to wear, and a mom and step-dad who love you and take care of you. Sorry if I'm not terribly sympathic, but you are 13 and now is the time for you to start being responsible for your own happiness. You can't rely on the people around you to make everything perfect - life is an imperfect mess, and if you can learn to appreciate the messiness and enjoy it, you are going to have a lot more fun. You aren't too young to learn that lesson.

After reading your additional info I have to say I hope you haven't been a spoiled brat about this to your mom already. It is really not her responsibility at this point to cater to your desires. You sound like you are being terribly selfish. Whether or not you want to be a big sister is a moot point. You are. Deal with it.

Answer 4

You'll get used to the idea of having a little brother or sister believe me. I was 10 when my mom had my little sister, and I really wasn't to happy about sharing my mom with anyone either because it was just me and her for so long. But, I got used to it. Now I would do anything in my power to protect my little sister. Give your mom some support she's going to need it, it's been thirteen years since she went through this, so she's going to need some help.

Answer 5

I think that you might be scared because you think that your mom will forget about you. I totally know how you feel because the same thing happened to me and its not as bad as it seems. Your the first born which means when your mom loved you first and she will always be your mom first. Just try to be happy for your mom and I know this might sound a little harsh but its what my aunt told me when I was going through the same thing get over yourself and stop being jelous because you are the oldest the first born and just because things are about to change doesn't mean that your life is going to be much different so just accept it because you cant change what is ment to be.
Good Luck!

Answer 6

Unfortunately, this isn't a choice you get to make. Start looking at this baby as a way for you and your mom to bond. Imagine how much help you can be to her in her later months and shortly after birth. I bet you will be so awestruck you won't even know why you didn't want the baby.

As far as sharing your mom, you are sharing her anyway, with your stepdad.

Answer 7

I understand ur feeling, u're feeling insecure as u r d only child of ur mum n dad. after getting a step dad must have caused u 2 b adrift wit ur mum rit? it's normal as u're young. u're not happy wit d thought of u getting a step sibling as u don't 1 ur mum 2 b more adrift from u. ur mum n dad have a reason 4 being divorced but tis is not ur fault. getting a new step dad does't mean ur mum luv u lesser, ask urself did he treat u badly? if no, try 2 accept him. about u getting a new step sis/bro will b good 4 u! it''ll b fun 2 have some1 2 talk 2, play wit n most importantly 2 share ur problems wit( as there r times we feel better 2 share our problems wit some1 our age, especially our siblings as u tend 2 share d same thoughts) is ur mum happy when she told u tis news? if she is, shouldn't u b happy 4 her 2?

Answer 8

It will be tough. I was 10 when my mom had her sixth kid. It was hard, and I was so used to being the 'baby' of the family, yes, I was jealous. However, you have a wonderful chance her to be the biggest supporter of your mom and learn so much! You are at a GREAT age to be the best big sister a baby ever had!
Talk to your mom about your feelings; she will understand.

Answer 9

hi i had the same situation when i was yonger. but it was my dad who made my step mum pregnant. i was so unhappy, i just wanted my dad to only have me. but as soon as i saw my step mums stomach getting bigger then feeling my little brother kick it all changed. remember this little baby is still part of you and your life. you will have responsability of been a older sister to him/her. and you know what, you will be the person they look up to most! this little baby will love you so much, and when you see that, you will feel completely different trust me. as soon as my brother came into the world, all the hate i had before had gone. i became so protective of him. and you know what his first word was?... laura, my name. we may not have the same mum, but that doesnt matter. he is 100% my brother, and i would give the world for him. you will feel like this trust me. its all part of human nature to be scared of change. but change is one of the best things that can happen.

Answer 10

im sorry to b mean but grow up. its not ur life its ur mothers and what she dose is up 2 her.and u have 40 weeks to get use to the idea of having a little brother or sister. and u already share ur mother with ur step father.