Is it right?

Question

As an adult is OK to tell children ghosts,demons etc.exist?Knowing how easily kids are scared.Do you go ahead and tell them the Amityville horror is real.Demons,shadow people are around and there might be one in your house.Just wondering if anyone gives that a thought.

Shuckaluckaloo always good to hear from you.

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Answer 1

Why would you tell your children ghosts, shadow people and demons exist when they do not? The Amityville horror was a hoax too.

Do you want your child to be easily impressed by superstition (and other imaginary thing)? Wouldn't you rather your child have the self-reliance and intelligence that comes along with a curiosity to find out what really causes things, rather than relying on fairy tales to explain that which he/she doesn't understand?

Answer 2

First it matters if the child is 3 or 13 or 17 years old. Second, nobody knows if they exist or not, some people experience them, some people believe in them and at a certain age presenting information for and against and letting them decide for themselves is perfectly appropriate.
The Amityville Horror is very controversial and again no one knows what happended both sides have their stories to tell.

While children should be made to feel safe (when appropriate) at some point that feeling of false security should end. This is why Santa Clause can be maintained for a while but a child should still know not to get into a stange car with Santa.

Michael John Weaver, M.S.

Answer 3

Children are most likely to see someone that has passed away, more than an adult, so be as honest as you can by answering any question your child might ask, about anything in life...or in this case, beyond. People that now live in the Amityville house have not experienced anything. So was it just a sick mind of drug addicted young man that went on a killing spree? ...and the people that wrote the book,,,where they in need of money, do research and you will be surprised.

Answer 4

Actually, I've always spoken freely with my children (I have three) about such things since we have a lot of *activity* wherever we live anyway.

They have actually found it to be empowering because rather than getting frightened by something they don't understand and continuing to be afraid, they know how to handle the situation and as such move on with their life well balanced.

One child actually had major disbelief (which is allowed) until he actually went with me on one of my visits to James and he stood right next to me when I took the pictures and he actually witnessed the end result where in there was "nobody standing there" but the being was evident in the photos.

He could not explain it; and now believes in James...but still has a healthy disbelief in general. The point, however, is that he didn't get freaked out because I had already been open about such things previously.

Answer 5

Hi Zachary, I dont think its a good idea to tell kids that there are ghosts and demons and stuff , instead we should be informing them about the real dangers in our world, like child molesters and such. I think its important to teach children about God and at the same time they need to know about the devil also. Teach them that the light will always outshine the darkness and there is nothing to be afraid of if you believe in God and remember that when you fear something you give it power over you so dont ever be afraid of any one or anything.

Answer 6

You can speak to a child about unusual experiences without scaring them, just don't revert to mundane, frightening images from the movies.

Ghosts or spirits are not something that children, or anybody should be afraid of. I am a firm believer of being honest and truthful with your children. If your child tells you she was speaking to grandma last night, and grandma died a year ago, you should be receptive to their statements. If you deny them out of hand, you are imposing your beilefs rather than giving the child the opportunity to understand what they are experiencing and make a decision for themselves.

Now, the situation I described is different than scaring a child with stories of the boogie man or demons in the closets. You don't want to scare a child, but it is also important that you not discount their experiences.

There are many things that cannot be explained in this world, and we should all be searching for answers. If we let them explore on their own, some of these answers may come from our children.

Answer 7

I don't know, if we are going to tell them santa clause, easter bunny and tooth fairy are real, why not the bad things too?
I think if you address it with your kids, it makes it a lot less scary, then if they encounter it on thier own. You need to build them up with lighter stuff though, like Goose Bumps and the Haunted Wedding Gown......
I don't think its so much a matter of belief at that age. Whether an adult tells you or not, you are going to make up your own mind, and be scared.
For the record, I don't talk about paranormal stuff around my son, but he is afraid of ghosts anyway, without any coaching from me.

Answer 8

As any parent can tell you, there is never a right answer for anything when dealing with children. In my opinion it is good for children to have a knowledge on the topics that we as adults believe we comprehend. For what do any of us truly know about anything? Is there really anything in the dark? Is there really anything is the light? What is reality and what is perception? Where do the lines mesh, or do the lines no even exist? To claim to have any answers in any particular field, can only be held in light to that person and their situation. Should you tell your children that ethereal beings exist? That is completely up to you. With all of this said I want it to be known that I myself am a paranormal researcher and investigator, and in my personal situation will never let my child delve into this field of study.

Answer 9

I don't believe in demons or ghost I believe in people that have crossed over now i would tell kids there is such things as people that are on the other side but they wont and cant hurt you. like Sylvia Brown says sprites cant hurt you ... think about it if they could then all the people that died on 9-11 would have killed all the terrorist that are still alive and kicking. as for the ghost stuff †hat is all Hollywood making money.

Answer 10

Choose your words carefully. Do you tell a child that Santa and their imaginary friend are not real? No.

You may tell the child, if they ask, that the funny little green man in the corner is their "angel" watching over them; protecting them.

When they are OLDER, you can then explain to them the difference between spirits (ghosts) and fabricated people (Santa).