We met through MySpace. He's a really sweet guy and all, but I can't accept the fact that he's gay. I mean, Clinton doesn't look gay at all. We talk pretty regular, and we are close, even though we've never met in person. This has never happened to me before. Is this normal for a heterosexual female to have a crush on her gay guy friend? What should I do?
2007-07-29 21:49:06 · 17 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
To start, I think this crush is the most futile thing I have ever heard - he's gay. He doesn't date girls. By you "not accepting" his sexual orientation, you are basically telling him you don't accept him. Period. That's not even a good friend.
You should learn more about being gay in today's world (It's not even a fad - it's been around for thousand of years, can you believe it?) and ignore this crush, it will only ruin your friendship, if it wasn't already.
2007-08-05 17:50:34 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine Says... 3 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Politely sit him down, tell him you'll be his friend regardless and ASK HIM! If he's gay, he's known for a longggggggggggggggggggggggggggg time. Probably since he was a kid, so ask. Regardless of what he says, accept it. If he isn't, then at another time, when your together tell him how you feel. BUT, if you don't want to do this....get some gay friends and ask them, or walk up to a gay guy in the street, gaydar is a wonderful thing.
2016-05-17 21:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no baby please do everything in your power to forget about this, or you will spend two yrs. completely miserable
Then by the slim chance you do hook up with him, it will then go from painful to devastating when he wont commit to you.
You have to accept his sexuality now, he is not going to change for you, now or ever. It's hard and sucks. It seems like all the good ones are gay or taken.
I want to like hug you right now because i know how you feel and I've been through the after math, and lost the friendship all together.
Actually my guy slapped me at the bar, and then i ended up punching him in the face. It just went from bad to worse because I couldn't accept that he was gay. couldn't accept that he was using me to get off how ever he could, yet was looking for a real relationship with a man.
good luck~ don't let this get to you and move on hell run from these feelings as if you were being chased by a masked man with a butcher knife cause that's how bad it will hurt when he stabs you in the back, and says see you later.
2007-08-05 09:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by Kris 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well it's not unheard of, having a crush on your gay male friend. Gay men are very helpful to us women. They give us good relationship advice, they are good listeners, they are sensitive, they give us good advice on fashion. They can relate to women better than they can relate to the macho male type. No wonder you have a crush on him, he tells you everything you want to hear, and probably more. I love hanging out with my gay male friends because they make me laugh, when I'm depressed about my boyfriends, they listen to me without just saying what they think i want to hear. They give me honest advice. So my advice to you is, just appreciate the good conversation that you have with him because ultimately, he's gay so you'll never have anything other than a friendship with him. Enjoy his company as a friend. Wish you luck girl!!!
2007-08-06 20:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you are setting yourself up for disappointment if you try to pursue this guy. Be satisfied with having him as just a friend. Find a straight male to start a relationship with, Its OK to be physically attracted to him after all, he is still a male. However, allow the attraction to remain only Physical.
2007-08-03 16:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by Gotta know for sure 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well not sure if it could be for you but maybe cause hes untouchable that is why you have gone to gay people i know they are trust worthy and nice people and that could be it but you have to know even if they don't look it then well it still is a factor and you have to acept it. i mean hey its ok but you have to know where your limits are and that is it.
2007-08-06 15:42:02 · answer #6 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal but he's gay it's nothing you can really do except tell you like him.
2007-07-29 21:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah its normal cuz gay dudes tend to understand females better
u could try showin him da good things about girls or wait to c if he holds on to bein gay
2007-07-29 21:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by Polo Nelson 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
love comes with acceptance..you must be able to love all about a person...so that you will be sure of your feelings
2007-08-06 19:31:27 · answer #9 · answered by yeoj321boy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
could be bi ask him how he feels about girls never know .. Alot of guys are bi but label gay cuzz dey like goys more ..
2007-07-29 23:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋