My husband feels that he's unapreciated ! I tell him I love him all the time and how much I respect and apreciate him, I cook clean never say no to sex and take good care of the children I really don't know what else to do ..advice please.
2007-07-29 19:30:50 · 15 answers · asked by thecoldfire72 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He didn't actually say it but I know that he feels this way from the way he acts.
2007-07-29 19:51:22 · update #1
Honestly, guys like it when their lady friends do little things for them...if he likes the window seat on the airplane you give it to him and say, "well I know how you like the window seat, so go for it." Things like that. Often times these little things are not that difficult to give either. Trust me, men notice these things.
Also, my friend says he can write any Cosmo article about how to please your man in 1 sentence..."Keep his stomach full and his balls empty." Seriously, though the former paragraph is probably more helpful.
2007-07-29 20:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by plantnerd 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I doubt you make him feel unappreciated...but as his wife it's great that you're concerned and want to help him feel better. When he does things for you, remember to thank him for it, because a lot of times guys with these kind of feelings often feel like they're not being good enough husbands. You two might want to a try a date night every 1 or 2 weeks where just the two of you do something. It doesn't have to be anything extreme, it could be having the kids sleep over at their friends or families house one night & you and your husband cuddle on the couch and watch a movie. Or you could get a babysitter for a couple hours and go out to dinner. Keep up the positive attitude, I bet he'll come around.
2007-07-30 02:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by Kimi Cabanna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone chooses to be depressed there is nothing you can do about it. He could be doing one of many things. One he may like the attention you lavish on him and thinks you will only do it when he is saying those things. He could be a self sabotager and is trying to get you to leave(this is usually a sub conscious thing). I would show him attention when he does something good and not when he is complaining about being underapppreciated. I would say"I am really sorry you feel this way. We adore you. I hope you can work this out. Let me know what I can do." Th is puts it back in his court and he has to ask for help. Some people just like to say those things for effect. Point is all you can do is your best and if he can't see all the wonderful things you do for him, maybe he is the one doing the underappreciating.That is all you can do.
2007-07-30 02:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by TBECK 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
"you don't know what you got till it's gone" that song popped into my head after reading your question. He sounds like he's just unhappy and it may not have anything to do with you---it could be work....his parents and siblings....fellow coworkers...or, and I'm sorry for saying this, he may just not be in love with you anymore. Other than standing on your head and juggling glasses, there literally is nothing else you can do for him.........suggest counseling .....at least then you may learn what REALLY is at the bottom of it all...........was he in the service? If so, even if it was a long time ago, major depression pops up at anytime, probably when you really are the happiest....if he was in the service, have him get counseling through the VA.....that's the least they can do for him and he will feel more comfortable talking to men about what's going on............good luck to you...........I'm in the same boat..............
2007-07-30 02:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Set aside one day for him to go hang with the guys / or take him to his fav. restaurant then to a ball game. & If that fails do what feel like the correct thing in your heart ask him what is going on is there anything as a Married Couple or team you two can tackle together let him know he does not have to bear the brunt of everything just cause hes the man of the house.
2007-07-30 02:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by Chris C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't really make someone else happy, just add to their happiness. If he's feeling unappreciated it, ask him specifically what you can do to help him feel differently. Men are pretty to the point, I have a feeling he'll give you a direct and honest answer....good luck :)
2007-07-30 02:35:27 · answer #6 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't mention being his friend, laughing at his not so funny jokes, telling him he is as handsome, or more so (in my case) than the day you married him, etc.
Has he he actually told you he does not feel appreciated? Have you asked him why he feels that way? What did he say?
2007-07-30 02:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by 8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out his love style. Some need to hear it some see it some need gifts etc.....find out what makes him tick and use it.....
Another thing to do is say "I don't have a clue why you feel this way I do all this ..... and I don't think you appreciate me."
See how he likes it.
2007-07-30 02:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by lol_des 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So who does he feel unappreciated by?? If you're doing all the necessary things, I don't get it. All that comes to mind is when he does something for you (no matter how small) make sure you thank him.
2007-07-30 02:36:26 · answer #9 · answered by sorri 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask him. Ask him to tell you exactly what he means by that. Your husband seems to be building up an excuse to end your marriage. I would want to know why.
2007-07-30 02:34:03 · answer #10 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋