seem like everytime i try she come up with a excuse!
2007-07-29 18:52:30 · 16 answers · asked by cory d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well if it were just a matter of her morals or religious beliefs she should have made that known to you right from the start. She would have told you by now that premarital sex violates her principles if, indeed, she were so principled. Instead she makes up "excuses" whenever you try to initiate love making.
Clearly she's stringing you along. She's letting you continue to BELIEVE that she will have sex with you if you continue to "make [her] happy." Yet she obviously has no intention of putting out. Either she simply doesn't want sex at all or she just doesn't want it with YOU.
My guess is that you've been spending loads of money on her, buying her gifts, doing her favors. Sorry. Time to wise up and realize this girl is using you. She played you for a sap. Dump her and learn from your mistakes.
2007-07-29 20:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's too soon for the romance to be over. Maybe there are other issues she isn't telling you about. Maybe she doesn't like sex. Did she have a bad experience with someone before you? Relationships are more about companionship and intimacy but if you let the sex die out it can be pretty miserable and I don't think it ever comes back. I would suggest romancing her a little more, do stuff a little off the wall. Bring some laughter and fun back into the relationship. I dont know. I think to make a relationship work takes a lot of commitment and you should NEVER take each other for granted. A little gap can become a HUGE canyon before you even know what hit you. Try counselling if nothing else. And if nothing fixes it then maybe you're better off looking elsewhere painful as it is. It's a lot more painful to stay together 10 or 20 years or more...then you'll just resent each other all the more. I think you should ask yourself, was it really that good ever? Were you both putting on an act to PLEASE one another? If you were, then it probably became too huge a burden to keep up. Maybe she tried too hard to want to love you when she really didn't feel that way at all. Women can do that you know....create this fantasy in their head and then they are totally disillusioned when their feet settle back to the ground. TALK it out and get to the bottom. Honesty is always the best policy. Women screw men over all the time...don't believe the ones who say they don't. They are probably the worst liars of all.
2016-05-17 09:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by adelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where did you get the idea that a woman has to open her legs to you because you think you deserve it? She's not making excuses, she doesn't want to have sex with you. Maybe she believes its disrespectful. Maybe she wants sex with a man who values her enough to commit to her for life. Or maybe she just isn't interested in you. Either way, if you don't like it, you need to move on.
2007-07-29 19:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first thing, how long have you too, Been dating. any way what you do is find out what she likes, then plan a day where you do everything she likes and at the end of it you have a surpise,, get a hotel room with a hot tub and spinkle flowers all over the room. add some beer or whatever she's into. then go for the move, make her feel guity for not giving it up, good luck be safe, be smart, be cool, common on to her
2007-07-29 19:00:23 · answer #4 · answered by Frost bite 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you had sex in the past and now she makes excuses? There are some questions that no one but her can answer-so ask her.
2007-07-29 18:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by PrivacyNowPlease! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I am assuming you had sex at one time and this is not simply her beliefs. If this is just her beliefs and you have not had sex before then you need to respect her beliefs. Otherwise just ask her what is really going on and tell her how it really makes you feel.
2007-07-29 19:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might step back and take a good look at your relationship and see whats going on in her life instead of just complaining about the sex.
2007-07-29 18:56:46 · answer #7 · answered by dove2002 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, the answer is simple... she doesn't want to have sex.... I imagine she wants to make love.... and you want sex.... that's 2 different things, in case you haven't noticed...
My gosh, man! You appear to have your brain stuck in your zipper!
2007-07-29 19:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do nothing. If you love her and she feels the same towards you, she will let you know when its time. She isn't ready, give her a break and instead of complaining, try to understand her side. Good luck to you both
2007-07-29 18:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by Marsh 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
NOTHING! if she doesnt want to have sex. then leave it at that. why r u trying to force her into having sex with you in the first place?
it seems like you are only using your gf for sex. and not really liking her as your gf.
2007-07-29 18:56:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋