Am I gay =(?

Question

I still like girls but theres one of my freinds I think I like too much. I mean I wouldn't mind holding his hand or maybe a hug but nothing else because thats just messed up. but when someone calls I hope its him or I just all ways want to spend time with him. I'm really afraid I' m gay. =(
well he looks up to me alot and when my freinds are together he always wants to hang with me or be on my team. Hes like a little brother to me. he does have a girl freind and hes younger than me by 2 years. my self am 16. I'm hoping hes just a good freind and I'm not gay. it is against my religion to be gay so ether way I just hope I'm not, and I hope this is just normal. =/
so please don't make fun of me. I'm really confused. B(

Answer 1

it mostly sounds like you're curious

Answer 2

It's not necessarily gay even if you were to hug and cuddle or hold hands. Gay is when you cross the line and really have sex. It's normal to have loving feelings or even crushes on certain special friends, but unfortunately in our society they'll make fun of you and think it's only o.k. for two guys to show aggression to each other, nothing warm.
If you still get really excited about some girls, you might end up with one, but if not, don't believe you're condemned. It may be good to shake off some relgious ideas if they're not true.

Answer 3

Ok, look, I don't anything about being gay or anything like that. But I do know that you and your friends are at a very difficult time in your lives and there is alot of hormones going on. First thing, you and him both feel like brothers and that is cool, especially when you need that type of comfort or friendship level and just because like any big brother, the younger one, wants to hang with the older one doesn't mean that is is sex**l in nature. Be sure that whatever you do, is exactly what you want. Because it could ruin any relationship you have with anybody. I'm not saying because of the "I might be gay thing" but because if it is just a hormone thing and if he is not interested in you that way, then it will really mess yours and his relationship up and consider the girlfriend. Break up with her before you pursue any relationship with anybody other then her. Don't be pressured in to doing anything that you are not sure of.

Answer 4

It could be that you have desires that are confusing to you. The only one who can know if you'd ever giveinto them is you. And it could be that he's not gay. Religion is a man-made thing. Being godly is a choice. I know what its like to really want to be around someone, and think they are the cat's moew, but I don't want to sleep with her. You ask about being normal... I've had times I had thoughts like you are- when I was in my teens. I think that if you are so lost in the world, you don't know what you'll think about doing. You want to experiment, and you have wierd desires. I personally believe its abomination, and that it can be - if it is a real issue- resisted in the same way that you resist anything else until it passes. I hope you have asked the Lord to be your Saviour and believed on Him, because you can't be in a frame of mind to think straight without Him. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder can mimick your problems, too. You think about him all the time, you could be obsessed, and it might not have anyhting to do with being gay. Some studies show that if you are aobsessed, you can often have sexual desire mixed in, because it's a way you'd like to control the situation better.

Answer 5

Dont fret my friend. Sometimes you can just have a friend or a person of the same sex whos that close. Someone you really look up to or enjoy being with. That doesentmake you gay. Being gay means your sexually attracted to males only. You think girl parts are icky lol. In other words dont worry your normal....you just have a good friend that your comfortable with....and thats a good thing.

Answer 6

I don't think your gay. You are at a differnt age where I guess maybe you will start feeling more comfortable but you are more emotional than most guys probably. So you get closer to people than most men like to show. This sounds dumb probably But you will understand. Sometimes I still wonder if I could be but I am married and have three chidren. But I think everyone thinks about it at least once in there lives.

Answer 7

Look...don't be afraid. It's ok to be gay. You may be bi-sexual since you like both girls and boys. I would advice, however, do not comment anything to your friend because he may not feel the same way. Don't rush into things. I'm not gay so I don't know how the whole things goes, but I'm sure you'll find someone that will feel the same way without anything awkward to happened.

Answer 8

Honey it doesn't matter whether you are gay or not. It is completely normal because I say about a third of the people I know are gay. Who knows, maybe you like both genders. You are still young and still can figure out what you want in life. No rush and go with what your heart tells you and everything will work out.

Answer 9

Some people we meet along the way of life affect us more than others.
Whether you are a girl or a boy.
Some people, we just find attractive, it is a energy thing, or a "I would like to be more like him" kinda thing. Some people just oooz personality or character, and are nicer to be around.
To think that it is sexual or needs to be sexual, that is a big jump.
Anybody can have dear friends of the same sex, its more than fine, its normal.
Enjoy friendships with all people, male and female, everything is not about sex.

Answer 10

You obviously are attracted to him, but is he the only important person in your life now? Do you have a girlfriend? Do you find girls attractive? You might have just found a best friend, and since you don't have a girl, your looking for a special bond, and he's all that's in your life at the moment. First, find a girl that you are TOTALLY attracted to, physically, and then..........if you didn't find one, your gay....

Answer 11

sounds like you are 16 and still finding out. Don't get paranoid over it. Last thing to do is jump to conclusions.
As for the religion if you are Christian than remember, everyone is welcome in the house of god. And that there is no unforgivable sin (cept one).
Just calm down about it mainly. And if you keep freaking out about it, you may begin to push your mind into thinking things you normally wouldn't.