Does being attractive play a factor in a relationship?

Question

I mean if a woman is overwieght and not attractive looking how can it be easy to have a affectionate relationship. What do you think?

Answer 1

i feel it does

Answer 2

First off attractiveness is only partly physical appearance. There is also self esteem, conversation skills, social status and many more factors that can be a part of attractiveness. So does being beautiful or handsome play a factor in the relationship? not so much. It plays a factor in establishing the relationship but in most cases once people have decided to have a relationship the physical attraction is of less importance. When people are in a relationship then they were already attracted. Assuming nothing has changed, the person they are with was satisfied with their appearance and is now concerned with other things such as opinions, trust and so on.

Answer 3

Most decisions are based on first impressions.

If a person doesn't look attractive then most people won't approach them. In business they get discriminated against and are treated poorly, when compared to how attractive people are treated.

A person's beauty is a pretty shallow measure of a person, but you have to admit that it is the first thing that gets a person noticed. Personally, I prefer a potential mate that shares my brain power. It would be nice if she were pretty, but you can get tired of looking at someone only when you talk with them (and they have something to think with) you get a new and interesting answer every time.

It depends on how over weight this woman is, if you can't ignore it then the weight is too much of an issue for you. If you can ignore it then you can have a great relationship.

Besides the less beautiful people will be more loyal and appreciate you more because so few other people are willing to give them a chance in the romance department.

Answer 4

Yes one should be attracted to the person you are with. One thing is that looks are not the most important thing, though it should play some what of a role. I do not mind if a girl is a little over weight. Just as long as I find her at least some what attractive. The main things are her personality. Is she a good person, very loving and sweet. Can she hold a conversation, is she honest? Does she really love me? That is the most important things are. Yet you have to be somewhat attracted to that person physically as well.

Answer 5

there has to be some parts of a person that you find attractive, even if its not the whole thing.
You might not find this chubby girl pretty when you look at her as a whole, but maybe she has nice eyes or lips or hair or something.
Looks play a part in the sexual/ attraction side of a relationship.
Without being attracted to someones appearance your relationship might not be very charged.
However I think personality plays a bigger part in relationships, after a while all the stuff on the outside should fall away.

Answer 6

I like overweight women.

I do get your point... however, what is attractive to one is not attractive to all. There are people who could never be (physically, at least) attracted to an overweight/white/black/skinny/muscular/etc person, and then there are those that prefer them. While there is usually a base "this is attractive", there's people who wander from that path. And of course, there are other factors. But yes, being attractive does play a part in a relationship.

Answer 7

I would say that it only plays the first superficial factor. Why? because eventhough you can be attracted to someones personality, the first thing that attracts you to someone is their physical apperance after that is you engage in a relationship you learn to look beyond that and into more significant traits like personality, moral character etc.
My advise is to give that person a chance and if it doesn't workout it wasn't meant to be but don't let the physical apperance be the final deciding factor.

Answer 8

Absolutely it does. Not only do both parties have to be attracted to each other (Which is a wonder in some cases), but the relationship tends to last longer if they are as attractive as each other. 7's marry 7's, 4's marry 4's.

Answer 9

Well I dont like the look off over-weight people - period..but I once had this friend who was really chubby..and i mean REALLY but i caught myself wanting to hook up with her once because she had this cute and bubbly personality and even though she was overweigh she looked cute and had nice eyes..so i surprised myself that for a second there i found her attractive but at the end of the day as shallow as it sounds, i woudnt date her. I really like skinny girls..i dont even like womanly curves much..just skinny and nice looking, usually the girls I like, most of my friends dont even think are that attractive, a girl also has to have the "theres something about her" factor and the way she carries herself is also important. So yeah looks arent EVERYTHING, but your asking about overweight people...and im not a fan.

Answer 10

For some people physical attraction is the spark that ignites the flame, but in the long run it's a matter of *mental* attraction, a willingness to remain true to your partner, and the appreciation of what you each bring to that partnership. Beauty fades away all too soon, but personality and true love abide to the grave - and beyond.

Answer 11

Yes, anyone who says otherwise is being naive.

Now, attractiveness is more than just physical appearance: it also has much to do with the emotional and mental aspects. But if you don't find someone attractive it would *not* be a keen idea to pursue a romantic relationship.