I've been really good friends w/ this guy for about five years. We were always "just friends" until this year when we went out for a few months. It ended w/ me breaking up w/ him then later me wanting him back and him saying no cuz he "doesn't think of me that way anymore". Anyway, our friendship went back to normal pretty much until about a week ago when we started talking on the phone about sex. It was really detailed and very personal (like we kept talking about our sex dreams we had about each other and stuff...detailed images ya kno. stuff that got us both really horny) and he soon asked if I wanted to have phone sex w/ him. I said I was too tired at the moment and maybe a different time. But I really was just wondering about it. Cuz he rejected ME after I broke up w/ him. Told me that he doesn't think about me in that way anymore and he probably never will. He STILL doesn't want to get back together w/ me. But he wants phone sex. What gives here?
2007-07-29 16:33:44 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you don't mind being taken advantage of and used for his convenient sexual fantasies, go ahead. However, if you have an ounce of self-respect, you will tell him to call one of the pay sex lines or get another dummy to do it with him. He said he doesn't think about you in that way, so that makes it obvious that he is using you. No-brainer.
2007-07-29 16:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you guys are as close as you say you are, then chances are, you hurt him bad when you broke up with him... i'm thinking that for him, it's better to have you as a good friend, than to lose you forever... when you broke up with him, you probably made him realize that as a couple, your relationship won't be stable and the risk is far greater than he can accept...
if you really care for him, stay as his friend, be there for him... you can let him know that the door will always be open in the event that he is ready for more.. and if you do get to the next level again with him, try make him feel secure and that no matter what happens, you'll be by his side...
i'm guessing, phone sex is not your problem...
2007-07-29 23:43:14 · answer #2 · answered by DaHFiT 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Look, what he's telling you is what he needs to tell you so that you won't think you've got it like that...(you rejected him, after all, so he can't very well give you that power over him again so easily). BUT, if he's having sex dreams about you (and willing to share them with you, no less) he's still very much feeling you no matter what comes out of his mouth "words"-wise. That's what gives.
2007-07-29 23:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion he doesn't see you all being in a relationship together, but that doesn't mean that he doesn't have a physical attraction to you. the whole phone sex thing may be a way for him to ease into eventually asking if you all could just have a sexual friendship.
2007-07-30 00:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's cool.
2007-07-29 23:36:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Call me......
2007-07-31 22:31:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋