my husband left my house a couple of days ago to get drunk n party with his brothers, he has done it to me many times i got fed up and so i broke up with him after all he is a drunk. we have 2 boys 1 and the other is only 7 months, how can i overcome this i have no friends n my family just throws things in my face telling me i told you so,
would it take a long time anyone with experince...
2007-07-29 16:26:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A broken heart never heals. You can only learn to ignore the pain.
You'll survive just fine, as long as you are committed to surviving.
2007-07-29 16:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds and yes it will take time. You did the right thing. Good for you. Get involved in a good church, find a Divorce Care group, love you kids, get a lawyer and move on girl. If you friends and family love you they will stand behind you. Tell them they were right when they said I told you so...and now you have seen the light. You and your children do not need to live in that kind of environment.
Good luck and God Bless you.
2007-07-29 23:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by mbpowell1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your family says 'I told you so' just take it and say YES you guys were right! cause they were right. You made a mistake in choosing him just like many women in this world. Now you pick up the pieces and move on. Usually calculate the duration of the relationship by 25%. You were married 5 years (60 months) then you can give yourself 15 months of feeling sorry for yourself, after that you're over doing it. You will be fine sweetie.
2007-07-29 23:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the person. Maybe it would help you to think about the good that you are doing for yourself and your future: you are moving away from someone who does not appreciate being with you, doesn't care about things that bother you. If you just tell yourself that you are going to find someone better, the pain might not be as bad. You are going to be sad for a while, but people do overcome bad breakups eventually (in most cases).
2007-07-29 23:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by Andrea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's hard to answer because you have a couple of reason.1) your kids asking for daddy consist reminder 2) your husband calling you coming to the house to see the kids.In order for a broken heart to heal you need to get him out of your life completely and in your case it's kinds hard to do so i would have to say that it's going to take a long Long time before your heart mends. One quick way to get over someone is find another man to take his place it works every time.
2007-07-30 00:42:21 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it will take you a long time, BUT the wonderful thing is this. You might feel empty right now, and you might feel kind of lost or whatever. But you will overcome and you'll be ok, if that's what you want. It is sad for the children...maybe counseling would help?
2007-07-29 23:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by butterflylover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so glad you did the right thing. You have to wait to see what he decides to do with his life. He could turn it around, but don't go back UNTIL HE DOES. Don't forget. Don't foolishly forgive and go bakc into the same mess again. It has been said that it takes 7 times the amount of time you knew them to get over it. I have found this to be true.
2007-07-29 23:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by The Wonderer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybody has their own healing time and you should understand that if he didnt make things better for your marrige, he was even't worth being with. and you say that your family will throw things in your face, don't you think you should have listened to them in the first place? hopefully you'll learn from this to do something better for your kids and to not expose them to a way of life they don't deserve.
2007-07-29 23:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by MARiE BELLA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will need your family's support so when they tell you I told you so you look at them and say Yes you did tell me and you were right so now I need your help to correct the mistake you predicted. That should shut them up.
2007-07-29 23:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know hun it all depends from a person for a brokenheart to get healed. Its not gonna get healed by its self your gonna need to try to go on, and be strong.
I don't know if You believ in God or not, but if you do I would pray to God and ask him to heal my heart,and make me strong. Good Luck.
2007-07-29 23:39:16 · answer #10 · answered by Inessik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋