Well, we were together for about eight months, I loved her a lot! She said she loved me as well, came over everyday even if it was for a short period of time. Long story short she said she was going to do something and did something else. She went to a party with a guy, and I caught her. She would not even look at me and just told me to leave, but earlier that day she said she loved me and all that stuff. She broke it off right than and it devistated me. The guy she was with was getting tuff with me so we ended up fighting, and I got an assult ticket. I know the fighting was wrong and I should not have done that. Well It has been two weeks now, and I have not heard from her at all. I really want to talk to her, I have never been so betrayed in my life, but I know I can forgive her. This is not saying I want to get back together with her, but I feel I deseve and explaination. I also found out later that she has been dating around with several guys, w
2007-07-29 15:27:40 · 12 answers · asked by ftank47 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think all of us have been in a situation like this before, at least I have. You have all the right in the world to feel betrayed. Yes she lied to you, but unless you both agreed that you are exclusive then you can't really be that upset. Does that give her the right to lie to you, to go behind you back, not really. Perhaps she wanted to make sure you were "the one" before making a serious commitment to you, most girls are afraid to go up to their b/f's and say, "Hey do you mind if while we date I date other guys?" Most guys (that really care for the girl) would say "heck no". You said she couldn't even look at you and just wanted you to leave. She was ashamed, maybe because she was caught, maybe cause she really did love you. Who knows the reasons, only she knows. Only she knows why she was doing what she did. Do you deserve an explanation, of course you do. Will you get one? Maybe, maybe not...Your willing to forgive her which is great, that makes you a better person than I, of course the person that cheated on me was/is my husband, but that is another story. But just show her how much you care, and that you can forgive her even if you don't get back together. It's the little things right now that you can do to show her your not angry or that you don't hate her then maybe in time she will open up to you and give you the explanation that you want. But right now if you become to pushy with the matter it will just push her away even further.
2007-07-29 16:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by ~Niecey~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should call her, you need your closure but obviously
that she doesn't really gives a rats *** about you because a person who cares would at least call and try to work something out or apologize about the whole thing or do something in which they talk to you, but if you call and she doesn't answer or return a phone call then **** it, it's not Worth sitting around hoping or wondering if they call because obviously they didn't care, so move on and i know that it might take a minute or second but move on and trust she's going to miss you and wish that she never hurt you like that, but by then it will be to late and please don't let this girl ruin another chance with another girl because ppl hate baggage but just be open and more aware
2007-07-29 22:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Feisty2You 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that sounds sad and i'm sorry this happened to you, yes, you do deserve a explanation, it may be the only way you can move on, try calling her or going where she is and tell her you just want to know why,,,that's the least she could do for being such a scuzz......sounds like she was confused and didn't know what she wanted, she may have had feelings for you but was scared i don't know, only she knows the answer to this, you'll have to bug her until she tell's you....good luck
2007-07-29 22:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with getmymackon...move on with your life. Sure, it was great while it lasted, but anyone who's gonna treat you like that is not worth your time. And you got an assault charge?? She doesn't care about you. Time to forget all about her.
2007-07-29 22:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by vamedic4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let sleeping DOGS lie.
Send her a note telling her you forgive her sorry a** and you're moving on to better things.
2007-07-29 22:31:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why bother even talking with her, move on. She is a dead beat and will always be so. Look for you another girlfriend.
2007-07-29 22:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by regina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell would you talk to that lying sack of crap? she obviously can get along very well without you. Count your blessings and jam down the road.
2007-07-29 22:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by redd headd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, dude. She doesn't feel like explaining. You got used. Let it go.
2007-07-29 22:40:13 · answer #8 · answered by BClovis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey stay away from the low life ho....I'm sure you can do much better.
2007-07-29 22:37:02 · answer #9 · answered by gloria b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her and find someone who would not do that to you...don't even fight for her...just get someone else in your life!
2007-07-29 22:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by Andrea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋