My son starts school next week, and no one has ever told him he is ugly. should he hear it from the kids first

Question

...or do i sit him down and tell him???

Answer 1

Yea, u totally should... if you wanna wreck ur kids self-esteem for life. It could cause a lot of damage later on down the line. What he hears from you means a billion times as much as it does from anyone else. And isn't inner beauty more important anyway?

Answer 2

Has he been isolated all of his life? No friends, family? If no one has told him yet, then you must be the only one who thinks he is ugly. I have worked in pre-school and Kindergarten. I've never heard one child tell another child that they are ugly. I have heard them make comments about the appearance of the parents. Shame on you for even thinking of telling him he is ugly. You will have the problem, not your child.

Answer 3

Well you should let him hear it from the other kids first. I think he would feel worse if his own mother told him. Maybe you should warn him that he wont hear very nice things from other kids in school but that he shouldn't pay attention to that. You should teach your kid to grow out from those situations and don't pay attention to stupid kids, instead of teaching him that he's ugly. Teach him how to make fun of them back. Teach him how to find a good part of himself, maybe he's good at sports or at math and he can beat the crap out of the other kids.

Answer 4

tell him he is ugly? that, to me doesnt sound very parentally encouraging. Maybe wait until someone else calls him ugly and when he comes to you about it, explain to him how everyone was created equally, there is no such thing as an "ugly person" because we are all beautiful and wonderful in our own respect.

Give him a chance to appreciate himself for what he is at an early age so he doesn't form self esteem issues and grow up thinking he is too ugly, too fat, too tall, too short, too whatever.

Calling him ugly won't exactly be setting him up for success, in my opinion.

Answer 5

don't tell him he's ugly. Tell him to be a nice person on the inside and not care what other people say. If you tell him he's ugly things wouldn't go good between you and him for the next 18 years.

Answer 6

you out of all people should see your own son as a beautiful creature after all they only get it from thier parents and there will always be bullies but you should NEVER tell your son anything like that
for starters that lowers self esteem and before you realize it you will have him either dead after a suicidal thought or away from the house that is not good parenting at all

Answer 7

Meanie. My Mom used to say I was ugly, and stupid, and too shy, too fat.
She was protecting me, knowing I was sensitive, and I would not go out and try to do things if I realized that I couldn't do them well. She was keeping me from being hurt by the world, by hurting me herself.

It took a supportive husband and a couple years of therapy for me to realize that I am as good as anyone else.

Answer 8

YES! You must tell him! I wish my mom had told me! When I found out from the other girls, it was horrible! They made fun of me for being ugly, and then they quarantined me for cooties! I started eating paste, you know, to relieve the stress, but I eventually grew too old for that. Now, I just get drunk or masturbate.

Answer 9

no, children in kindergarden are observent on behavior,what kind of school materials they have the same-fitting in.If it does arise take your child in front of the morror and ask him what he sees.do not confirm childrens nasty statements-they can be quite vicious.Remind your son the beuty also comes from within,how he acts treats others-be supportive with open compassionate arms to assure him that people come in many different packages-some small,some big,some in pretty paper and some in a regular packaging box/envelope

Answer 10

What a horrible thing to say about or too anyone. Your son hopefully will never take after you. Maybe you should grow up --every normal parent think there children are beautiful. You should be embarrassed of yourself--- shame on you.