Can a relationship survive without sex?
I was just wondering. I plan to abstain from sex until marriage for personal reasons. I just wanted it to know if it would be possible for a relationship to last without any sexual activities involved?
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I am twenty btw and basically only had sex once and he ended up being a jerk.
2007-07-29 15:07:17 · 20 answers · asked by . 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Of course. But then, it would be a relationship without sex.
I think what you really want to know is: How patient can a man be when it comes to sex?
Short answer: Depends on the man.
But realistically, most people, especially adults, today find the notion of no sex before marriage a little quaint. I guess if you can find a man who really thinks you're the light of his life, then he'll be willing to wait. But a lot of people may pass you over as being simply old-fashioned. The advantage is you'll weed out a lot of guys who are only after one thing. The disadvantage is your refusal may be perceived as a lack of commitment, or worse, you may be branded as a tease.
My suggestion to you is you may consider being a little more flexible. You may simply say you won't have sex with a man unless you're satisfied you're sure he's in for the long run.
Of course, it's your life and your body and you do whatever you want, but you asked for advice and here it is.
Best of luck to you.
2007-07-29 15:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe it can, which is why, I believe if someone doesn't want to have sex, they should not be entering into a serious relationship.
I know it sounds crazy, but hear me out.
In a relationship, what is the primary role of "sex"? It is the most intimate connection anyone can have with another human being. It is top of the line, nothing better, when it comes to connecting. When a couple has makes love, they are reconnecting... rekindling those flames. During arousal, hormones are secreted, and all that jazz, that attract the two people together. The scent and sight of their partner, excites them. Obviously.
So, if you are hoping to have the best possible connection with someone, hugs and kisses are needed. That's why moms and dads are encouraged to hug and kiss and cuddle and massage their babies. It sends a message of acceptance and trust and happiness and comfort.
It's kind of the same thing with two adults. They hug and kiss and cuddle and massage in order to express their love for one another.
I'm sure you are abstaining from sex for religious purposes, so I won't say you shouldn't do that. But, to be honest, abstinence may be the best protection against STDs and pregnancy, BUT, it also really hurts relationships. If you wait until you are already married to have sex with someone, who says you will like it? What if the two of you are completely sexually turned off from one another? Are you supposed to just pretend that it's good? That's why marriages fail!
Sex is made out to be such a bad thing, but if you are careful and take all preventative measures, sex between 2 loving, caring adults who are in a serious relationship is perfectly okay.
2007-07-29 15:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by its_victoria08 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships do survive without sex. It is good to wait until you're married to have sex. You avoid lots of trouble that way and you hopefully can avoid those deadly thingies like AIDS associated with non-monogamous relationships these days. And be sure and have a test before marriage. Cheers!
2007-07-29 16:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by sokrates 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A relationship can go on but a marriage will shrivel and die, no pun intended.
Building a foundation for a marriage while dating should include heart to heart talks on this subject. If the communication is not mature enough to have these discussions that should be a sign that your with the wrong one.
2007-07-29 15:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by Threeicys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO It really just depends on the maturity of the people involved in the relationship and if they are both on the same page about the situation. I see it as highly unlikely due to the younger generations being so sexually active.
2007-07-29 15:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by Poe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a marital relationship won't last without sex...
and you learned why you ought to abstain atleast till you get to really know your fella well, like read him like a book, (and we aren't that hard to read, if you are honest with yourself).
but a loving relationship can grow while the couple gets to know each other quite well without sex.
i like opinionatedkitten's answer, by the way...alot of wisdom there...we must be alumn from the same school of hardknox.
2007-07-29 15:25:29 · answer #6 · answered by captsnuf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if the person you are with HAS TO HAVE a sexual relationship before marraige, then I would be convinced that that is all they are in it for. I do believe that relationships without pre-marital sex develops a trust that lasts long into marraige. If you can't trust your boyfriend or girlfriend to stay with you WITHOUT having sex, then there is no trust there and you cannot have a relationship without trust.
2007-07-29 15:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by cateylady2010 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to be very honest and let the person you are dating know, not to expect any physical relationship with you, that you are waiting until marriage. The only problem I notice, how do you know, if you are physically compatible. Could sink your marriage quickly.
2007-07-29 15:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by flieder77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's called a 'Friendship'.
If both people have the same belief that sex comes AFTER marriage, then there is no problem.
2007-07-29 15:21:36 · answer #9 · answered by Yam King 7 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If both people are committed to the same values. Many find abstinence before marriage make their marriage stronger in the long term.
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2007-07-29 15:12:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋