A very reserved partner?

Question

I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years now. She has led a sheltered life.in the bedroom she is very reserved.the act of intercourse is fine, but she will not engage in foreplay.If she can get away without touching me she would.When she does its allways under duress and she shows no enthusiasm.Shes more than happy to recieve foreplay.What can i try to get her more involved.Its making me not want to sleep with her anymore.I have talked to her but all i get is Well go somewhere else if you want that.is she a selfish lover or should i look somewhere else.

Answer 1

If she lived a sheltered life more than likely she was taught that sex is bad. She is having a hard time removing herself from her inner child and is scared.
She needs time to learn and explore.
Be patient with her, unless you are ready to move on.

You might even mention this to her, ask her if she feels dirty when she touches you (sexually). If she says Yes, there could be something in her past that she is not talking about.

~faith

Answer 2

The best way forward I suppose is to try and talk about it and see where that gets you it is very difficult because if she is very shy then it will take time but if she is worth it then give it a try.

Answer 3

Talk to her about other things also. It seems that you are talking only about sex to her. Only if she feels comfortable, she can express her problem. If you are really interested in her, you have to go slow and comfortable. Otherwise, leave her alone.

Answer 4

Maybe she was taught that foreplay and other intimacies were bad or a sin.I was like that until my husband was kind enough to show me that they were not.

Answer 5

go somewhere else, you will only get frustrated with her and her with you! leave her to it!

sex isn't everything but it sure is something!