After 10 years, you are no longer in love, but he still is, do you think it is possible to fall in love again with him?
2007-07-29 13:07:09 · 13 answers · asked by pampam1970 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course there is a chance you can love him again. It may take some work but if it produces positive results then its worth it. You were in love with him when you got married and you can be in love with him again. You just need to ask is it worth it? I hope the answer is yes because you owe it to yourself and your husband to give it a try. I would suggest remembering why you fell in love in the first place. Try some romantic evenings. Even try going on a traditional date or two. Or even a trip to spice up your relationship. Work on issues in the bed room as well however do not focus on that because that's not the only thing. Talk to each other about how you both feel. You might want to talk to a therapist to work some of this out or to at least get to a starting point. I wish you luck on reliving your love for each other and I will pray for you!
2007-07-29 13:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may not be "in love" with him, but do you still love him? Do you still think he is a good and supportive friend? Do you respect him and feel respected? Are you still lovers? Are you basically happy with where you are in your life right now aside from this issue? If you can answer yes, or at least maybe, to these questions, then it's definitely possible to get that in love feeling back. You may be stuck in a rut, your life together has become routine. Discuss this with him and come up with some kind of plan of action which might include marriage counseling and/or a romantic vacation. Suggest things you would like him to do and listen to his suggestions for you.
If you answered no to these questions, your relationship could be in trouble. I would immediately try individual or couple's counseling, or perhaps a trial separation to see if you can't do some real soul searching.
2007-07-29 13:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by zero 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly understand, i was like that too, but you can fall back in love, right now I am slowly getting there but it takes some time. The relationship feels more like a best friend kind of thing, if you know what I mean. I do love him and it is hard to get that inlove stage again. Just give it a try.
2007-07-29 15:54:06 · answer #3 · answered by Isis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that you no longer love your husband or are you just bored? Perhaps you need to rekindle the romance. Every relationship goes through its peaks and valleys. Is the relationship itself still worth saving. Is he a good man who treats you (and your children, if there are any) well?
If you think you found someone else and he is more exciting, you need to realize that it is your hormones and not genuine emotions that is creating the excitement. Every relationship is exciting in the beginning. Excitement isn't a foundation for a lasting relationship.
You need to communicate with your husband, seek guidance (counseling, pastor, etc.) and perhaps do something exciting together.
In the end you need to be true to yourself. If you truly don't love him anymore free him because he deserves to be loved.
2007-07-29 13:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by motherofthree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, go back to what brought you together in the first place. Other words, what was the relationship based on in the beginning? was it ? love, money, looks, sex ! Ask yourself this question and then answer it. For example, let's say your answer is money, you loved him because of his money. What would happened if he lost his job, if their were no more money will you still love him? Probably not because the relationship was based upon money. If your relationship was truly based upon love then you will still be in love with him in the beginning, love never run out !
If your relationship was based upon any but love, then you was never in love with him. Maybe your were in love with his money, the sex, ect..........think about it and you will have your answer!!!!!
2007-07-30 00:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by ChicaBee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its possible to fall back in love. It will take a lot of work on both of your parts...you guys can reconnect. You're gonna need a lot of QT ~ Spice it up!
2007-07-29 13:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by BossLady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! ...Unless you are being abused. There has to be a reason you fell in love, You need to find it again, or find a new reason to make the two of you happy. Don't run away until you've tried to love him again.
2007-07-29 13:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by ImaginesRainbow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got some serious talk'n to do with him. I doubt you can bring back the feelings again. Might be the beginning of the end of your relationship.
2007-07-29 13:11:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
10 years and you are acting like a selfish girl instead of a grown women.
Shame.
2007-07-29 13:28:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
after 10 years...you decide yourself. no one knows your feelings except you
2007-07-29 13:10:26 · answer #10 · answered by tranjessica1993 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋