my husband is usally always horny, now not so much, i know he looks at a lot of naked girls on the internet. im pregnant, but he says he likes my changing body, is there anything i can do to turn him on, or to make him want me more, i want to please him so he wont have to look anywhere else
2007-07-29 13:01:42 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Self confidence is very sexy. You should dress up for him, and show him just because your body is changing doesn't mean his appetite should change. I used to to initiate with my husband, I think he was afraid of hurting the baby. I showed him that he was wrong. After a while I had to fight him off with a stick. Good Luck!!
2007-07-29 13:05:46 · answer #1 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he is only window shopping but making all his "sales" at home, don't worry too much about it. Best thing you can do is talk to him but avoid an accusative tone. Guys like to look much more than women - and there is more to look at. He may never stop looking but you can keep him engaged in other activities to limit his free time. Just don't preach. He may want some role playing or change in the routine if that is what your time together has become. Add a bit of spice by getting frisky in a strange place. Don't go overboard with it. Some guys feel insecure in that you are now the center of attention. Make him your center of attention in private moments.
2007-07-29 13:10:47 · answer #2 · answered by Huba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like there partners when pregenant,everything about you is bigger.he probably really wants you but is afraid of hurting you and baby.Go on a nice date and decide that it will not lead to penetrative sex beforehand. There are lots of ways to be intimate without sex.Enjoy each other,but most of all talk about how you are feeling.Men dont like rejection so if your both clear where the line is no one can get upset.Your hormones are all over the place so you are bound to feel insecure if hubby looks at girls on the net.Looking is ok.At least hes not touching.
2007-07-29 13:13:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men worry that by having penatrative sex they'll be hurting the baby (which I think is adorable :). The truth is, however large your hubby is, it won't reach the child!! Try and reassure him of that, if that's a worry. Secondly, there's lots of websites on the net that sell maternity lingerie like sexy babydolls that can conceal the bump if you're feeling a bit self-concious. You could try so many different positions too! Backwards cowgirl etc...use your imagination.
Oh and btw, if he's having a child with you and he's married to you - I really doubt he wants anybody else but you!
2007-07-30 04:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs Stevo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of pregnant women ask me this question. Will he look around while I'm not available? I reply- Does a bear seek solace elsewhere or does he just catch salmon at the old falls while he's waiting? The women thank me and generally have a good delivery, if from observation, a somewhat painful experience.
2007-07-29 13:09:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to help him deal with the porn issue.
Porn is a trap and it can alter our relationships with our spouses.
Talking to him about the porn will be incredibly difficult. Running any kind of guilt trip on him is not going to help anything.
Ask him what he likes about it. Be genuine. Try to understand what is going on in your husband's head.
Like other answers have said, let him know that sex while you are pregnant is OK and is still enjoyable for you. Let him know he still satisfies you.
Whether they want to admit it or not, all men want to satisfy their wives, the biggest turn on is knowing that they are able to give their wives what they want and need.
Let him know he's the man for you and that he's the object of your desire.
Giving him great sex is a fine goal but stoking his ego and letting him know that he's all the man you need will make him want you even more!
Peter
http://www.renewingromance.com
2007-07-29 18:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by Peter P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of asking us why don't you ask him. After all his the one you want to please. It doesn't sound as if his not in love with you or loosing interest since he said he like your changing body. Sounds more like his afraid to touch you because your with child. Most men get funny about that. And they don't think they should put their wife into anything they think will or could cause her to go into premature labor. So just go talk to him. Let him know your fine and can still do things but maybe in just a different way right now.
2007-07-29 13:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of men stand in awe of pregnant women. I am sure you are desirable to him but he sees your body changing and may have fears of hurting you or the baby. You should maybe as a couple talk with you midwife for reassurance that no one is going to be hurt or damaged by sex and that the baby is quite safe.
2007-07-29 13:10:02 · answer #8 · answered by lix 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men do not get many opportunities to have sex with a pregnant woman, so they don't know what to do, or even that they CAN have sex with a pregnant woman. My wife had to tell me. I used to love looking at her changing body and telling her how beautiful she was. She finally said, "Look at me, I may be pregnant, but I still get horney!" and she jumped my bones. She had to take the lead and let me know what I could and couldn't do as she got bigger. But she was a pregnant nympho. I was just ignorant. Sooooo.... clue him in.
2007-07-29 13:20:41 · answer #9 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know him better than us, you obviously have already pleased him so just go for more of the same. He will be astounded by a seduction so just go for it girl. You are more beautiful now than ever. He wont be able to resist you. Be yourself, confidence always pays x x best of luck
2007-08-02 04:49:09 · answer #10 · answered by milly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋