My daughter's dad and his ex-wife broke up a year ago. She has had some issues with drugs and has lost custody of their son. She wants me to fight for her to see my daughter now that she has cleaned up but he is insistent she doesn't see her and not sure how much of that is vengence or real concern about his daughter being around her. By the way she was her stepmom since her birth. I am pulled in two directions any advice?
2007-07-29 12:58:22 · 3 answers · asked by stormy m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I will say that anything that involves your daughter involves you!! You have every right to have your say so when it comes to her.I want to make sure i understand something..OK your ex and her had sons together and he has custody of them..that is how I understood that!! I also am assuming he won't let her see her own sons!!! He really sounds to me like he is holding a grudge against his ex and that is the reason he doesn't want her to see ur and his daughter or her own children for that matter. Is your daughter and her close? Does ur daughter want to see her? How old is ur daughter? Why can't she see ur daughter on your terms? If you feel that she has really stopped the drugs and is fit to visit with your daughter than let her come to your house and see her or pick her up. Tell him that you are not trying to disrespect his wishes and tell him how you feel. That is as long as your daughter wants to see her and as long as you are 100% sure she is off the drugs and also sure of her reasons for wanting to see ur daughter. Make sure it isn't just to get to her ex. So..u have a lot of thinking to do and I hope you make the right decisdion. Go with your gut instints and also I'd do a bit of checking and make sure this womans intentions are good ones.
2007-07-29 13:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by sash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably talk to your daughter to see how she feels about it. If she even wants to see her or not. If she does, I may tell your daughter's dad she misses her step mom, but that's as far as I would go. I wouldn't want to get too far in the middle. Since he is the one that was married to her, he knows her a little better, so I would probably trust his judgment regarding his ex more than my own.
2007-07-29 13:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let your daughter's dad work it out with her and stay out of it. He's not going to appreciate it if you do anything for her. .
2007-07-29 13:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jess 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋