my husband of 21 yrs. suddenly died in his sleep 2/14/07. I was at work when the police called, my 14 yr. old daughter had found him in the bed. He had never been sick. How long does it take for the hurting to stop? I'll be driving down the road & just start crying. How can I be a widow with 2 teenage children and I'm only 38?
2007-07-29 12:55:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you believe in God I know that he will help you. He has the power to heal and deliver anyone from anything. Pray for understanding and stregnth. Surround yourself with pictures and things that remind you of the joyous times you shared and share those special momemts with your children. These things will definitly make you stronger.
2007-07-29 13:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can tell you it does get easier as time goes on. my husband died 14 months ago. we were both 28. 3 kids they were 8, 5, and 1. i still cry when i hear certain songs. he had never been sick either. sorry to let you know the hurt is still here but after being together for 10 years it is hard to just do the little things like sleep by yourself, eat dinner, etc. i know how you feel and just how hard it is. if you need to talk e-mail me or i have im. if there is anything i can do for you let me know. i am sorry for your loss. my heart goes out to you and your family.
2007-07-29 13:17:55 · answer #2 · answered by jenni 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. I imagine it will hurt you for a very long time because 21 years of marriage is a very special thing to have, especially in this day and age. But, try to remember the good times and go on with your life. Remember him always with love and pray that God will help support you through this. Again, I'm sorry and I do hope things get easier for you.
2007-07-29 13:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. It's normal to grieve for some time after a big loss such as this one. You will probably always feel some grief about your husbands death but as time goes on, it wont be as bad. Have you tried counseling to help you and the kids cope with it?
2007-07-29 13:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off i am so sorry for your lost, my heart goes out to you and your family. when ur married to someone for as long as u and ur husband were and they pass away wether its suddenly or expected its hard to deal with. you're never going to forget him or the life you all shared because he was the only person you were with for those 21 years.
my dad passed away last year and at the time he passed him and my mom were married for 34 years and she had a really hard time coping. a year later she seems to be doing pretty good with the help of friends and family and most importantly God. just surround yourself with positive friends and when ur having one of those days just pray and ask God for strength.
2007-07-29 14:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry for your loss. Honey you can be a widow or widower at any age.... You can get through this... Would he have been able to get through it without you??? What would he have done??? Ask yourself those questions and see where it goes..... You and your children have to sit down and discuss this... they must be hurting terribly.... talk it out. if you dont work, you need to get out... get in touch with family more, use your friends more... they will be there for you .... please let me know how you are doing.......... I care.......
2007-07-29 13:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard for you and i sympathize with you. Nothing but time will make it better but I know with 2 teenage daughters it makes it even more difficult. I think you just got to keep on keeping on and hopefully things will get better soon for you. Take care and keep your chin up!
2007-07-29 13:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by Introuble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll be fine it just takes time, but you also have to remeber that your not the only one hurting because your kids must be hurting to. In this case you cry mostly likly becuase you miss him and are scared of raising kids on your own, but this is where you have to become indipendent and have courage for your kids sake
2007-07-29 13:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by midnight4218 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feal really sad for you, and im sorry for your loss, but u hav e to accept the fact that he is dead, but, his spirit still lives within u and the kids, so be sure to pray him to heaven, and find your self some (Female) friends, to cheer you up and help u through the pain.....
2007-07-29 13:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by MasterMan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww im so sorrry its gonna take awhile its not gonan stop hurting just think of the happy times n stuff
2007-07-29 12:58:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋