After your divorce and decide to marry again would you be more wiser to make this married work out better?

Question

than before

Answer 1

Hi Pelagiavon,
A relationship be it good or bad always have lessons to be learned. Because as much as we hate to admit, it's rarely a one-way mistake..Somewhere along the way, we did screwed up too. A 2nd relationship normally makes us more careful & sensitive to our partner's emotional need. But of course not all of them end up on a positive note. Some simply become embittered & clammed up thus repeating the vicious cycle again and again. It all depends on how you recover and your perspective. The worst thing is having this motto "il never love again"..It's the surest way to misery & being hurt all over again. Make no mistake about it, loving with all our heart can hurt us if not reciprocated but failing to love is even worse coz u don't stand a chance at all to happiness...Yes, i believe you'll be wiser the 2nd time around..Just keep in mind LOVE is worth fighting for.

Answer 2

Let me tell you something, it seems like you are having second thoughts about this engagement and possible marriage. From what you have stated I feel that you should break off the engagement with this girl. If you marry her, it will not last. So, to save yourself alot of heartache and for her to be hurt and disappointed with a loveless marriage, break off the engagement now stating that you cannot marry because you feel that you are not ready. You should not be forced into this marriage out of guilt...Tell you parents that you do not love her enough to spend the rest of your life with her and you cannot marry her. She'll be hurt, but in the long term, she will understand that it was not for the best. Good Luck to you and next time, don't be forced or coerced into getting engaged with someone you are not sure of or do not have feelings for because of parental pressure.

Answer 3

I think love will be better the second time around( Luther van dross said it best). on a serious note though If you are blessed to find another and not carry baggage and bitterness into a new relationship then it is worth the effort . my main thought is to tell you that marriage is a compromise and that we as women sometimes have to learn to let a man be a man and to give him space. another thing I recommend is to never compare the two of them even if he does things that seem similar to your ex. and most important never get too comfortable no matter how long you have been together because you must always be the sexiest thing on his mind put 100 percent into the bedroom action, smell good, and always remain a classy diva with a hint of freak good luck

Answer 4

You would think, but you never know. Some people just never get it. And then their is some that just like being married for the sake of being married. And the their are those rare occasions that people do learn from there mistakes the first time and live happily ever after til death do them part.

Answer 5

Ask yourself why you think the first marriage fell apart in the first place. I think if you can answer that question you'll know what to do differently. Before considering another marriage make sure you are best friends with this person and that you know him or her very well. Talk about what your expectations are in a marriage relationship, such as finances, time with other family members, vacations, recreation and household responsibilities.

Answer 6

I thought, but as it turned out, my X husband didn't think I needed to do anything, that it was all his fault, making me realize that I was giving WAY to much in my second marriage. When I tried to rectify the situation, it was too late. And realized that nothing I did was good enough for the 2nd husband, which is now my X husband as well.

Answer 7

Well duh... do you want to go through another divorce??? Honey you have to work at it.... and remember what happened in your other marriage that you didnt like and try not to let it happen in your new marriage... I am married for the second time... this one takes even more work than my first, but its worth it........ don't look for someone like your first husband, find a totally different kind of person... make a fresh new start and WORK at it....

Answer 8

I'm sorry. I must have missed something. Why are you getting married? Is it just for sex or because you like weddings or do you really plan to spend the rest of your life with this person?

Answer 9

No.

I'm like Professor Higgins in 'My Fair Lady' in that a close relationship with a man brings out some of my worst qualities. I have no idea how to fix that.

Answer 10

Unless I met someone like a "soul mate" I would never get married again.